"I Promise I Will Never Hurt You"

"I Promise I Will Never Hurt You"
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"I promise I will never hurt you". This is what my ExN said to me in the beginining of the relationship. At the time, I even told him you can't promise me something like that, because there are times when you may hurt someone even if it is not intentional and he did not get it.

NinjaGirl's picture

Mine did something similar

Mine promised, after the first couple times he broke up with me (OMG, reading that now I don't know why I didn't run, and instead begged him back) that he would never break up with me again.

After the third breakup I told him I'd never take him back again. Yeah...

After the fourth breakup and getting back together, he PROMISED me he would never just dump me again out of the blue, like all the other times, unless we thoroughly discussed the issues and what he was upset about (he tended to get "hurt" easily, stew, and then lower the boom unexpectedly over something stupid) and actually try to work through things, and only if we couldn't work things out by trying, then we would mutually breakup.

This last time, things seemed ok. He was "hurt" over something I did, but we had a couple discussions, I thought everything was fine, he was being very lovey again, and then that night he broke up with me.

Oh, and then he had the audacity to say in a letter to me last week that he's always been brutally honest in his relationships and with people in general. LIAR! In fact, his email was all about how he'd been able to forgive what people had done to him, and how guys before him always messed up girls he got together with, and how it wasn't fair to him because he was such a good guy.

Excuse me, I have to go stifle my puke reflex now.

Allie's picture

If they're talking...they're probably lying...

Some of the lies my N told me after resurfacing in my life after 25 years...

"I would never hurt you"

"I will always be there for you"

"I loved you more than anyone"

"You were different than all the others"

"You are so fascinating"

"your husband doesn't appreciate you"

"you are just a trophy to him"

"I cried while watching the Notebook, I sobbed, it will forever be our movie"

I could go on and on, lol. My N lied so much it would be much shorter to write about when he didn't lie....

NinjaGirl's picture

And yet

He probably adamantly claimed he never lied, right?

PumpKyn80's picture

Yup

He did. I remember when I called him a liar, and he kept repeating "oh Im a liar, "oh Im a liar" in a tone that actually made me feel guilty for calling him that. He was very good in making me doubt myself, very manipulative.

broken23's picture

my n told me "i cant promise

my n told me "i cant promise you what will happen but i will never lie and always be honest with you about my feelings". it was everything i wanted to hear to take him back. why did we break up...cheating and lying! As Barbara used to say, if their lips are moving, they are lying!

Scoop's picture

Its all lies

See if they dont have any feelings then any talk about their feelings is a lie , weather its i love you or i hate you , emotinaly they are flatline .Mine said "i would never hurt you " and yet he ended up hurting me more than anyone i have ever known ... funy that ..Mine had the gall to say to me on friday night "i have honered all my promises to you " i just said "oh shut up "