First of all, you are not a bitter and mean person; if you were, this would not hurt so much. He is projecting his characteristics on you. Think about it. Only a bitter person would wish the mother of his child dead;knowing how much it would devastate his son. Regarding him not hitting the wife because she is the one right now who makes him so happy.... Bullsh*t!!! He would knock the piss out of her (if he hasn't already)just like he did you. Take it from someone who was married to an abusive man years ago. He did the same thing to the second wife that he did to me. Until the point, she refused to go to his funeral when he died in a car accident. Your son needs to see you not continue to be this man's victim. Yes, daddy is cool now but one day his son will clearly see the truth; and when he does, he is going to need his real mom and not the victim his dad is trying to create. Be blessed.

Yes JM - it (your feelings @ that moment) make plenty of sense. The N - on the other hand - does not. NEVER will. Their hatred runs deep within THEM. In the infamous words of Miss Barbara: THEY ARE NOT HUMAN! This is why their words stun us so. They envy us. My N envied my youthful appearance (I'm 3 yrs older than him, but look 10-12 yrs YOUNGER - says everybody! Ha!) I told him that trying to keep track of all his lies has aged him terribly. That 'bitter, old woman' comment your N made? Pffft! You should've told him that one of his personalities has you confused w/the woman who birthed his psychotic ass! Pissed for having to raise satan's spawn by herself.

One morning after 2 days of complete silence from my N (unbeknownst to me, I'd 'gawked' @ other soldiers while talking to him. Ha! I probably was trying to decipher what a SANE soldier looked like @ that point!), I approached him - not to apologize (Pffft! For what?) - but to ask how much longer we were going to continue this game. He looked directly into my eyes & calmly said: "I want you dead just as much as I want to do it with these hands." WTF??? I stepped right in his face (morning breath & all)& laughingly told him: "Aaawww but you're too much of a b*tch to do it. Ahora sueño con un ojo abierto, maricon! (Eng: Sleep w/one open now, fag!)" Oh that's right...they don't sleep. Ha! Off to the barracks he went. Effin' dwarf!

No contact JM. Use the texts & emails as reminders when/if he tries sweet talking you. Whenever my N pulled that sh*t, I'd bombard him w/all of his BS texts/emails he'd sent me (Oh XXXXX (my name) I luv u so much - XXXXX u make me want to be a better man...etc) EXCEPT...I'd replace my name in the texts/emails w/ 'John' - the openly gay guy from the gym on post - who N told me was constantly trying to pick him up! N would then back off for a while.

When your N calls @ work - DO NOT ENGAGE IN THE PSYCHOBABBLE. Your response to him should be: "Put it in an email. Thanks." Click! They start pushing buttons the moment you allow them 1 minute of your time.

Oh and be assured...he will NEVER be at or know peace. He won't ever REST in peace. Nor will he EVER be able to give a woman (...or man) a good 'PIECE'! LMAO

Remain strong JM! Refuse to be mentally or emotionally defeated.

You need a legal document stating what these texts have said. Maybe you can order them from your provider?
You DEFINITELY need to start gathering evidences if you haven't already!
He's mad, because HE'S BUSTED!
I find they say the most ludicrous evil things when you call thier bluff!
You KNOW none of what he said is true. If he's talking, he's lying. If you were such an awful person, why is he still trying so hard to be with you again?
Sounds to me, like he likes the new wifes money, but likes something you have more?
Just remember, none of it is about feelings though.