Bay Area

Bay Area
Posted May 9, 2010 - 7:11pm
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There were a few threads that I have read where a few of you touched on the fact that your N's were raised in the Bay Area....I was raised in the Bay Area and although I love how beautiful it is and the access to so many activities, I have not been able to relate to many that live here. The only reason I stay is because my two nephews are here and I don't want to be a distant Auntie.

Now I know that it isn't where you are raised that determines whether you are an N or not. They can be born and raised anywhere and be an N. I just thought it to be interesting that so many came from here, live here or see a pattern.

Thoughts?

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Ex-N from Berkeley

May 9, 2010 - 9:40pm — Susan32

My ex-N was born in Berkeley, but moved to New England when he was 7. His upbringing sounded pretty traditional, with an eccentric maternal grandmother, a stay-at-home mom, and a professor for a father. I think he majored in philosophy to impress Dad... when he should've gotten into theater. He knows how to make a dramatic exit!

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My family has lived in the

May 9, 2010 - 9:39pm — Janet

My family has lived in the bay area since the mid-19th Century -- great, great grandmother came to San Francisco during the potato famine in Ireland. I went to school in NY and lived there for about 20 years and moved back here (for N) 4 years ago. I don't know, I think they are everywhere. I have a great family, who all live here, and have been amazing through all of this with N. I am so happy to be back home in the bay and really love the proximity to the Sierras for skiing, the coast and the wine country (where my Mom and Dad and one of my brothers live). There are a lot of messed up people around here - no doubt! But, there are a lot of good people too. :)

Peace. J

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neveragain5

May 9, 2010 - 9:12pm — loveofmylife

yep, mine is Bay Area..... here is my theory on that....

I was born and raised in the south... many people grew up at church and even if they didn't, there was still a greater sense of family, commitments, and the importance of relationships in your life. So I see a very big difference in the Bay Area...I've never really liked it because of the lack of community.
I moved to the Bay Area around college. Met N who also came to Bay Area for college. I didn't like it so moved with my family back to the South.

One thing about the Bay Area is that people remain relatively anonymous. The community is not very tight - people can remain very unknown even to their neighbors. My N left Bay Area to have a family somewhere else and came back to this area because he liked the anonymous nature of it and the anything goes attitude. MEaning that girls can come in and out; many different relationships can go on and not very many people would ever know.

Also, almost anything goes in terms of relationships here....all kinds of non-standard relationships with people getting just what they want out of the relationship without a commitment and its ok. It is a very self-centered community that attracts people who want to make alot of $ and make a name for themselves. Thus, Ns are attracted by the potential fame they can gain here.

Most people that value family wind up moving out because it is hard to have a tight family here due to the fact that you must have a 2-income family to survive...and that puts alot of stress on the family structure.

There is an incredibly large community of divorced and single middle aged people. Probably alot due to the "ME" culture that thrives here and again, the stress on marriage caused by the 2-income family.

It is incredible the number of people here that are on online dating that are in their middle age.

But overall, my theory is that alot of Ns are attracted to this area because of the potential fame and power and $, the anonymous nature of living here and the "anything goes" attitude.