I read "Women who love psycopaths" over the weekend. It is the most accurate and comprehensive description of what has happened to me...and why. At this point, I want to just move on to recovery and put the past behind me. Totally realizing this will be am important undertaking. And that it would be naive to underestimate my narc.

I realize and understand the importance of "no contact". That has begun. And I understand the relapse is a real concern. Support in those moments would be a must.

Yet - I am unclear how to actually "deprogram". I've listened to some hypnosis tapes from another site. Those have helped me to gain a measure of "control", allowing my productivity level to bounce back. that combined with an actual explanation of the dynamics has done wonders to reduce my sense of confusion.

Yet, I want to leave no stone unturned in my recovery as well as safe guard myself for future narc encounters. With him and others. I'm still mortified over how I "gladly" participated. Now that I realize how and when he used nlp and other techniques, I'm actually creeped out at the thought of having any contact due to the constant confusion.

Any input is most appreciated. GIJ