I hope this is the right place to write this. I have been trying to end a relationship with a Narcissistic male for a very long time. He has been in my life in some capacity for the past 4 years. We did not marry and thankfully have no kids together. He lives with his parents and totally takes advantage of them (he is 37) by paying nothing towards the house, or his daughter who they have raised. (she is 18)

My ex fits this profile of a person with NPD to a T, except the image part. He is not a guy who is always wearing the latest style, or sporting the latest haircut, he is more concerned about a different type of appearance. He wants to be a Full time Fire fighter. He is currently and has been a volunteer FF for 5 years. He decided to do this after his 2 older brothers did it and the family bestowed up on them all kinds of praise, and showed their pride.

he does this I know souly for the image. Not the helping people. He wants to be the hero, and receive the big pat on the back. He wears only tshirts with firefighting related logos, his work out gear is firefighter related. (he is not in shape but thinks he is) He has a big ol belly, a double chin, man boobs..and yet on his online dating profiles lists himself as Athletic. His car is decorated by flaming seat covers, a windshield sticker that says FIREFIGHTER, he has a license plate holder that says I fight what you fear, and has an assortment of window decals. His jacket is also ff related. I think he wears this and uses this as a image promoting tool. In place of the hair style, great body, fashionable clothes. Would that be accurate?

he was very unfaithful, and wanted me only when someone else was not avail. OR when he thought he could convince me he wasnt seeing anyone. He still tries this now. I have been enacting no contact and find it hard, like kicking a drug habit. What if anything can I do to make this easier. I am currently unemployed but seeking work like crazy to fill my time and for obvious other reasons. I try to stay busy with friends but they can only amuse me so much, I have joined a couple web sites regarding this, I read all I can on it, and try to stay busy.

Any other suggestions from you would be most appreciated. I have only touched the tip of the iceburg as far as his behaviors were I am sure you all know the rest so I need not repeat it. But I do thank you for reading. :)