I had a shit weekend. I have had a shit few months - undx npd co-parent has now found new ways to undermine the confidence of our children.

D11 has chosen not to see him at all at the moment and D12 sees him but not for overnights. N (and his proxy wife) are hopping mad about this.

I could guess that his thoughts are along the lines of this:-

"why won't my girls do what I want and love and adore me? why are they being cruel to me? Why is their mother poisoning them against me?" whine whine, poor me, left out in the cold.

In words he even went so far as to question D12 about what I had told her about our past together! She answered truthfully that whenever she asked me that question 'mummy says you are very different people and not suited for each other'.

But its his cruel words in combination with his actions that really say it all: Last time D12 met with him for an outing, he took her to a garden centre with a favorite cafe where she was expecting some Q time with her dad and perhaps a hot choc or a milkshake and a chat. She was even prepared with a dialogue to explain to him why she was not comfortable staying for overnights (the night before he had been pushing her to stay over and she had refused saying she would talk to him about it when they met the next day).

They picked out a card and mothers day gift for SM and D12 was surprised there was no offer of a drink and she asked if they were stopping for one, he then started to tease D12 about her recent weight gain and said she could do without the extra calories. She came home quiet and later burst into tears and said her dad made her feel ashamed of herself and fat. He had even boasted how he had lost some weight while she hadnt. "Hes punishing me because I wouldn't stay for an overnight" she said - from the mouths of babes!

she got it right. He is a malignant beast sowing the seeds of low self esteem in her just at a time in her life when she is self concious of her changing body. No matter what I do to counter his malignancy he still finds a way to hurt our children.

I know I don't need to defend here - my D12 has gained a few pounds, shes going through puberty and has been upset about her dad's recent hurtful behaviours - the very ones that caused her to comfort eat. Its no biggie spring is here and we will get out more for exercise and her comfort eating is under control now, the puppy fat will go. He even called me aside last week and said 'She's obese, something has got to be done about this'. The translation of course being 'You are a terrible mother allowing her to gain weight'. I stared at him in disbelief I was so literally stunned I did not have a response ready, but next time it will be 'myself and her doctor are not concerned'.

So no need to stew or debate this one - HE IS A NARCISISSTIC MORON WHO IS DESTROYING THE CONFIDENCE OF OUR LOVELY DAUGHTERS. But I have a plan and it involves a relocation - one that would bring us an extended family support system and the freedom to fill our lives with happiness. Narc can visit if he chooses to but it would be under the watchful eyes of a large protective family.

I am depleted, my children are sad and have had enough. NO MORE I AM GOING TO GET US OUT OF HIS REACH!