where would I be without this forum? Probably reading Sam V's book...yikes...or be on some other forum that would feed me god knows what for advice.

Barbara's proven dedication to this forum astounds me, as the time commitment involved is nearly a fulltime job. I'm so glad to have her as our moderator. She is all about common sense - something the Ns in our lives have tried to overpower in order to control us.

One little note about all those links from the psycho stalker: these links that are being included here might be boosting her pagerank. That wouldn't be good!

she made a mistake coming here. she is used to stalking and attacking members of forums who are still confused as to what they'e stepped in. everyone here knows what a Narc is, and what a Psychopath is, and can recognize one. now that's she been recognized for what she is, hopefully this predator will do her stalking elsewhere. however, she has shown everyone firsthand how a Psychopath behaves. i doubt she'd be pleased to know that she's been HELPFUL to members here, instead of HURTFUL, like she had in mind!!

thanks guys... thank you so VERY MUCH... this means a lot.

I only get about $25/week to moderate here to cover my costs so this is not a paid position. I am here because I want to be and because of my commitment to the healing of victims with truth, honesty and clear direction as well as real tools.

Unfortunately, that crazy person has not given up:
http://bink-think.livejournal.com/12921.html

I am glad she isn't affecting anyone here. She seems to think that because I have come to a conclusion where I know there is no hope (for MYSELF ONLY here, not talking about ANYONE but myself) but I have learned to deal with what IS for me. I don't try to make anyone else feel hopeless... everyone's situation is individual. But I will not feed anyone codependency, blame, blanket forgiving or touchy-feely-hopey magical thinking. No amount of bubble baths, facials, glasses of wine or mini-shopping sprees will make it any easier. They only way out is THROUGH. I promise to tell you the truth, it's up to you do what you will with it.

I hope you've taken a minute to read about the fund I have set up for members helping members on the right.
http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2010/03/13/contributing-support-site-whe...

and thank you all... I wasn't fishing for compliments... I just feel you should hear things about me from me first. I was a member on a few boards that had some wackos on them in the past. Since starting my abuse blog and subsequently coaching victims I, like many abuse victim workers, have developed stalkers & naysayers. Unfortunately, this one followed me here. This won't be the last time this happens but I do promise never to attempt to cover up what should be exposed.

Nothing beats fresh air & sunshine to beat abuse!!

Hugs all around...

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The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein

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http://bink-think.livejournal.com/12921.html

Perhaps Lisa Scott has become busy with her life post abuse, promoting her books, and left the forum unsupervised? Maybe the forum is the least important of her priorities at this time, which makes sense considering

Members this is simply not true... yet this person continues to slander. Complaints should go to abuse@livejournal.com

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The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein

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I have to say that I completely disagree with any of the negative comments made about Barbara. She has truly helped me to walk through, survive, and grow from one of the darkest chapters in my life. Before her support and wisdom, I really believed all of the lies and manipulations. I couldn't see straight, and questioned my reality all of the time. Today, due to this site and Barbara, I am growing, raising my terrific kids, and leading a much better life. I understand how to set boundaries, to stand up for myself and my children, and to trust my perceptions. My divorce is almost final, and it is Barbara who gave me the nudge and support I needed to fight for what I needed, and what my children deserved. I can't ever thank her enough.

Barbara, I think you have done the right thing by posting this person's link here out in the open for all to see and be aware of.

Of course this hatemonger's remarks are complete and utter hogwash, I personally attest to that fact after having spent countless hours here in the past few months and being very familiar with your comments and your approach to doling out advice and guidance to the people who come to this website.

This woman (although I have not ruled out the possibility it could be a man, that would make more sense to me actually) obviously has a personal chip on her shoulder towards you and is attempting to discredit your valueable work on this website for reasons of disliking you personally.

And that is dishonest and lacking integrity.

I also suspect she could possibly be in cahoots with Psychoboy if it is not in fact Psychoboy himself. Just a thought.

As I have stated before, I am eternally grateful for Barbara's dedication and devotion, extreme amounts of time and energy poured into the maintenance of this website.

I can't think of another who could possibly do the job as well around here as Barbara does. What would we do without her? We wouldn't do half as well, is the answer.

Barbara provides a firm, no-nonsense style of providing information and guidance that is ESSENTIAL in helping victims get away from a Narcissist and move forward with their lives.

Frankly Barbara and her style of running this place is beyond reproach and absolutely irreplaceable!

I have no time for an outsider's negative remarks regarding Barbara and how she takes care of business around here. Barbara does a remarkable job and God help us if we were to ever lose her.

Barbara, I am deeply sorry that a misguided hatemonger has chosen to throw stones towards your efforts here but I will be the first to whole heartedly say her opinions are without merit, misguided and hate based and don't hold water in the grand scheme of all things regarding this website.

Thank you Barbara for all you do around here, as I stated you are irreplaceable and I wouldn't have you change a thing regarding the style in which you approach sharing your wisdom and experiences with others. Not one thing. I love your 'foot in the ass' way of doing things. It is just what the doctor ordered when making a break from a Narcissist.

Please don't allow this hater's unkind words to have any effect on you in any way, other than to further propel you to continue to do exactly as you have been doing around here. God bless you Barbara, and keep up the FANTASTIC WORK!