Here's the Facebook/MySpace/Dating Profiles of some of our ExNs

My N would never, ever put himself on Facebook. Neither would his brothers. Top secret, undercover everything. I once put up a photo of him and my kids fishing, with the caption: fishing with friends last Summer--no names, no "boyfriend" or any other identifier. He found out about it and went totallly freaking bananas. His brother's girlfriend posted a photo of him lifting up his foster child to put a star on the Christmas tree, and I told him about it and sneered, "You'd better talk to her so that doesn't happen again," sarcastically. He said, very seriously, "I will."

Here's the Facebook/MySpace/Dating Profiles of some of our ExNs

May 30, 2010 - 8:16pm — Barbara (not verified)

a bit more fun for the long weekend

see links in top post

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Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals

Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

14 is mine

April 15, 2010 - 5:06pm — bitterdestiny

He's my idiot his page is private but he's all over youtube and the country ugh

#18

April 15, 2010 - 3:11pm — narcsurvivor

Lucky me, I fell for this guy's bull for eight years on and off, his charm and prospects for a good, solid future have kept me hanging on waiting until things between us be what they should be.

The last time I communicated with him was when he threatened to sue me for not upholding my end of a nonexistent agreement in promoting his book when it was just a favor I did for him in return for him promoting MY website. But leave to an N to twist and turn as he might.

All throughout us being together, I always found him online - ads everywhere. You can check out some of my story in the Share My Story section.

He loves animals? Yeah, if throwing socks at my cat while sleeping and making loud noises and waving his arms to scare my cat is loving... or if him bothering his fish by scaring them so that they all make a mad dash to the other side of the fish tank, gathering up feces and dirt from the tank floor is loving, well, who am I to talk? And he wants to get a dog, dear God, in his filthy and cluttered and dark apartment.

Lies, lies, lies. This is by the far the most bizarre ad he's written. I guess since he's writing a science fiction novel, that he has been researching all this stuff about society's breakdown and whatnot, that he things it's funny and will lure in his next supply.

He doesn't have a bachelor's degree. He has an associates degree studying criminal justice, if even that's true. He got laid off a year ago so he's not an IT consultant- matter of fact, he worked at the help desk, I'd hardly call him a consultant. Also, he's suing his former employer for discrimination.

His ad indicates that he put it up on Valentine's Day - the day before he threatened to sue me. And on V Day he sent me texts acting like nothing happened. Also, he said he was seeing someone and that she wanted them to go get massages but he was complaining to ME that they were too expensive. So not sure what happened there or if it's even true - he may have just been trying to make me jealous. Didn't work.

I'm sooooo over him! I know, what did I ever see in him???

http://goodbyenarcissism.wordpress.com

YUCKO

April 15, 2010 - 3:45pm — wallaby (not verified)

and so obviously N'y. I mean he's not real good at covering up his weirdness! I mean the whole women robot thing - how N is that? SO glad you're away from this creep! He may be even weirder on paper than he is in person. Mine does well on paper but if you meet him you see the robotic social oddity, haughty N stuff.

narcsurvivor

April 15, 2010 - 3:30pm — janetc

EWWWWW is all I have to say....his ramblings are bizarre!! His book? Wow, I'll stay away from it if it has more ramblings like this!

On the good side, I doubt anyone will want to meet him after reading this. Too many of the N's sound great and wonderful on their ads!

Congrats on being free of this guy!

Thanks. Back when I met him

April 15, 2010 - 4:05pm — narcsurvivor

Thanks. Back when I met him his ad seemed pretty normal and made him out to be a nice guy to have a meaningful relationship with. But this ad made me realize that he's getting worse, not better. And while I have to say his book is good cuz i read the manuscript, I find it lacking in human emotional depth - no big surprise there, though!

http://goodbyenarcissism.wordpress.com

#16

April 15, 2010 - 11:43am — janetc

#16 is my N...30 years and HE stuck it out because his daughters needed him, GAG GAG...he was never here and never did anything until I kicked him out!!

Please note, he is free to find his "sole" mate...the spelling error is very telling, any woman he is with he will put under his sole! LOL!!

He is currently in Key West at an Ernest Hemmingway look a like contest LMBO!!

So glad to be free!!

Ladies, beware of dating sites, he has found quite a few supply sources here.

#16

April 15, 2010 - 12:09pm — Kitty02

I have been feeling really down today but the 'sole' mate bit has had me on the floor laughing...

That's a classic

April 15, 2010 - 12:27pm — wallaby (not verified)

Talk about a Freudian slip! He is looking for a mate ....to crush under his sole!! LOL. thanks for sharing that one!

Too bad you can't take

April 15, 2010 - 9:01am — gullablegull (not verified)

Too bad you can't take pix....
I should probably wait until I'm divorced anyway.
All these pics are downright frightening!
I don't think they should call it
Plenty of Fish
but more like
Plenty of Pond Scum
Plenty of Trash
Plenty of Puke
Plenty of Snakes...or something more fitting?

We're up to 18!

April 15, 2010 - 3:04pm — Barbara (not verified)

have fun

(narcnarc's dying psycho is lucky #13. she said he's not yellow now - he's ORANGE!!!)

(fyi - Psycho-Boy is Number TWO... and I didn't post that, one of his other gfs did! LOL)

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Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals

Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

we're up to 16!

April 15, 2010 - 7:27am — Barbara (not verified)

ick!

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Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals

Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller

the psychonarc is unlucky number 13

March 13, 2010 - 7:38am — narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)

-----i put him on dating psychos..i'm sure he's on plenty of dating sites..but he is such a comsumate pathological liar, i haven't been able to find him..i'm sure he lies about his age, occupation, name..the whole nine yards...once a friend found him using oen of those high priced detetive services..claiming to be a PHd...a 'professor of physics' at some university in southern missouri that i had never heard of, but using a post office box in the city we lived in..i'm sure this cockroach is out there..everywhere...like all demons, his name is LEGION....
My blog

Barbara - two questions on posting links

March 13, 2010 - 1:56am — wallaby (not verified)

I am considering sending you my N's website -but he is relatively well-known - a public figure. I feel an urge to send it but am not sure a) if i could ever get traced back to me here (seems no it could not from what you said) and b) wondering what we are hoping to gain here - other than putting faces to some of the snakes we discuss.

I also think with my N his grandiosity is clearly apparent on his website (even though he has truly accomplished a lot his nauseating vanity still shines through)- but I would love to get people's reaction to his pictures which do capture him very well I think. He is good looking with that haughty smirk of evil.

Can you clarify for me?

posting links

March 13, 2010 - 2:33am — Barbara (not verified)

many of us want to see their faces - it helps us see how firm that "mask of sanity" can be. Far too many people believe they can 'tell by looking' - fact is they can't

If it's his own website run by himself or his own people... don't post it - it could easily be traced back here. For example - Psycho-Boy runs a very popular blog on Conservative Right Wing politics. I will not post the link because he ego-surfs so much he would come right back here.

However, posting their Facebook, exposure site profile, etc is going through a Third Party - so they won't know.

Always remember this is a public board. ANYONE can read so be careful.

Hope this clears up your questions.

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Thanks Barbara

March 13, 2010 - 3:39am — wallaby (not verified)

That does help. And you're right, it does help to see their faces. He and his people run his site. So I won't post it. He does not do Facebook and is not on dating sites as he might be recognizable even if he wants to troll for fresh prey. How about a third party link to him like from a university that will be hosting him or something like that - or articles about him in the Wall Street Journal or NYT with pictures? Would those work - when I have Googled him in the past there are a million third party links like these.

He sounds mentally so much like Psycho-boy - but has acted out less (I think...at least hasn't yet with me and WONT be able to now). But how their minds work from what I have read of Benoit - creepy - and so similar. Mine is also a formidable intellect and right wing like yours and was personally appointed by George Bush to his last position. Can you imagine how it feeds his narcissism to be so close to the Bush/Cheney gang -even if in a totally different line of work. Loves power, loves it. When Obama got elected he took a hike as I think he knew he would not "fit in" with the new order.... and did I mention he's racist?

wallaby

March 13, 2010 - 3:43am — Barbara (not verified)

very similar... maybe you should anonymously sign yours up for Psycho-Boy's blog! Sounds like they'd be perfect for each other... LOL

Psycho-Boy's been exposed so much he went back to using his real name... guess the "poor me I can't post without Barbara attacking me" nonsense didn't work after a while.
http://www.stoptheact.com/db/profile.php?mode=viewprofile&u=44

A third party link would be fine.

Barbara

March 13, 2010 - 4:18am — wallaby (not verified)

LOL that would be perfect! And they'd have to duke it out for the attention!

I will send a link.

Old #11

February 22, 2010 - 10:18pm — rache

IS MR Hyde.I had the misfortune to get caught up in his drama.

#9

February 22, 2010 - 4:39pm — rache

Looks like a sociopath to me

I admit to number 9

February 22, 2010 - 6:53pm — alfrebob

He completely destroyed my life and abused his previous two wives and all his kids (whose doctor said they have been extremely psychologically damaged) and has no contact with any of them. Actually, I have my kids including his 2 year old so he did not destroy me. Look through his webite. He partly bought this ailing business with the money he conned from me. The Sales and Marketing co-ordinator is his GF who is completely under his spell. He is evil to the core. Hopefully the finance suppliers will find out one day.

EVIL

February 22, 2010 - 7:00pm — rache

and,it shows on him-absolutely demonic looking.You are so blessed to be rid of him.

rache

February 22, 2010 - 7:04pm — alfrebob

I showed his picture to a new friend I have made and she asked me to close the screen down as it gave her the creeps. Some of the small pictures can be enlarged to show his evil eyes.

In the 'About Us' section it talks about the 'Family orientated' firm, what a bloody joke. That must be an offence under the Trade Descriptions Act!!!

He is I believe a

February 22, 2010 - 7:37pm — alfrebob

He is I believe a psychopath. Both his daughter and my midwife told me that. I wish i had listened. I allowed this thing to become involved with my kids and take everything that I had worked so hard for, from them. I am now trying to start again to rebuild for them. I only spent a few years with him and he was an animal.

His GF thinks he is wonderful. He has no friends yet born and bred in the same are for 50 years and no friends at all.

Pray to God

February 22, 2010 - 7:57pm — rache

that what that man has stolen from you be ripped from his hands.You pray in faith and watch what happens.The ex i was with lost over 20,000.

There are

February 22, 2010 - 7:11pm — rache

those of us who can sense evil in people.My son heard snakes hissing around my ex !

If only we could see without

February 22, 2010 - 7:38pm — alfrebob

If only we could see without our rose tinted specks

Must say...

February 22, 2010 - 12:01am — nycsurvivor

some of these men are very un-pleasing to the eye. This completely throws off what I thought a N would look like. I thought Ns were normally very attractive. I guess for men who are not very attractive, they need to have something to hook the woman, since they can't go based on their looks.

Barbara

February 21, 2010 - 10:14pm — rache

i sent ex Socio/psycho narcs pic and info to your email thing.Cannot wait to let everyone see what an evil devil he is.

rache

February 21, 2010 - 10:27pm — Barbara (not verified)

he looks like he belongs in a nursing home...

I responded to you as well.

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Barbara

February 21, 2010 - 10:33pm — rache

You know something-everyone that saw him thinks so except i was i know hypnotized.One gal told me she thought he had a voodoo spell on me!,as,she thought he looked like he came out of satans a hole.Her exact words.

Which one are we talking

February 22, 2010 - 4:38am — alfrebob

Which one are we talking about here?

alfrebob

February 22, 2010 - 8:12am — Barbara (not verified)

rache sent me a photo... we can't post photos...
if she would send me a link to one of his dating profiles I could post it...

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He changes

February 22, 2010 - 10:34am — rache

profiles like he does a dirty pair of socks.never a pic on one either-i am lucky to have this one of him,lol. He doesnt know it either. he even has claimed to be 18 and 21! Sick freak.

http://www.stoptheact.com/db/profile.php?mode=viewprofile&u=89

Shame

February 21, 2010 - 10:53pm — helpmefromn

My friend said I have more energy than ever now that I am not with him, and that I was giving giving giving all the time. BUt I still haven't gotten fully over him and I am shocked that it's been 6 months and I am still feeling 'not good enough'; my therapist and I are working on this together and she is great, but it doesn't help that I saw online that his new 20 year gf is the new face of a big clothing company. I am so depressed now and those feelings have returned. Will this ever end? I feel like he has so much happiness and the gf and thinks I am a loser when in reality I know he is heartless but in a weak moment right now....

is she 20 years old?

February 21, 2010 - 10:55pm — rache

how old is he? Anyway,doesnt matter much as she will dump him if she doesnt get what she wants.They use and get used.

he's 30

February 21, 2010 - 11:07pm — helpmefromn

he's 30

he

February 21, 2010 - 11:11pm — rache

is young.SHE will soon be getting devalued and discarded.

she's gorgeous and very

February 21, 2010 - 11:23pm — helpmefromn

she's gorgeous and very 'useful' for him and that annoys me

shes gorgeous

February 22, 2010 - 10:31am — rache

and probably knows it -he will be dd if he doesnt dd her first.I have noticed that these men use and get used.Serves them right too.

moved

February 19, 2010 - 2:54am — Piscesdream

(moved - placed in top post.

please email all links to us. posting them here could lead people's exes right to this board; which is public)

PlentyOfFish...NO!

February 18, 2010 - 11:30pm — The Girlfriend ...

That is the website where I met my Psychopath BF! Do not do online dating...NOT ever!...My Narc/Psych BF appeared to be the 'nicest guy' you could ever meet! I was even VERY cautious and did everything 'right' in being careful and screening potential new 'friends and dates'...and STILL the Prince Charming he pretended to be...hid a dark secret...many of them...including hiding a history of violence, etc...(read about it in the 'share your story' section if you want to).

Listen to Barbara! Please delete your profile. Online dating is an easy hunting & playing ground for predators like Narcs/Sociopaths/Psychos and the disordered. Even if you think you have met a 'great guy' and he is everything he 'appears to be'...studies show that nearly half of men on these dating sights are married or in a relationship and lying/cheating, etc.

I thought I was the luckiest woman to find my BF. We had a year of the best dates ever, and he projected an image of a truly decent, positive and healthy man, a gentleman, and he seemed absolutely 'Wonderful'...but Mr. Perfect Match turned out to be a man who after more that 3 years with him...I found out he had been convicted of child abuse, arrested to violence and even been deemed by the Minister of Justice's Office to have a violent, aggresive and unstable personality, and is a danger to others, including the health and welfare of his own children...

He has carefully cultivated the nice guy image in his Facebook Profile now...you would never know the truth about him by looking at it...or even at first in actually dating him...

I will NEVER do online dating...NEVER again. Beware, there are Plenty of sick dangerous Pirahna, Sharks and predatory Bottom Feeders on PlentyOfFish...don't fish in that pond, before you end up in hot water!

I really want to send you

February 18, 2010 - 10:48pm — narcsurvivor

I really want to send you all of his profiles (he has a few) but maybe when I'm feeling a little stronger to go online to these sites and look them up. I used to have them bookmarked.

I blocked his number so he can't text me anymore. Emails and texts are his main ways of communicating with me. I can't block the phone # according to Sprint but he's not a caller so I'm not worried.

I'm actually meeting a couple of guys from plenty of fish - I will be on alert, that's for sure. I've had enough of being too nice!

WHAT!?!?!?!?!?

February 18, 2010 - 10:59pm — Barbara (not verified)

you're on PLENTYOFFISH?
Did you hear about the recent murders from POF hook ups?
Are you KIDDING about ONLINE DATING????
that's huge huge huge NO NO NO!!!

I would NEVER be o.k. with Online Dating at any time, for any reason.

http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/04/10/rigorous-honesty-first-rule-r...

GET OFF THE DATING SITES!!!!

more from Sandra Brown, MA:
Read any of our websites that are sort of in the same subject matter: women in unsafe situations and all of our sites are telling you the same thing! Online Dating is NOT safe. NONE OF IT IS SAFE!! Stop believing the eharmony-match-plentyoffish-chemistry cutesy ads about the 'forever relationships!'

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MURDERS!

February 19, 2010 - 7:00am — rache

Wonder if my ex SOCIOPATH/NARC could be involved.I declare i believe he is a psychopath.A freak a zoid.

OMG, I hadn't heard about

February 18, 2010 - 11:10pm — narcsurvivor

OMG, I hadn't heard about that. Dating sites aren't my first choice for dating. I try to go to meetups (meetup.com) once in a while. I read the link you gave me, and I completely get it. I have been reconnecting with friends and trying to be more sociable these past few weeks. It's not easy, but it's so very necessary.

I won't think too much of these dates I have lined up. I'll use them as an exercise in listening to myself and spotting red flags. They're actually in the city I'm visiting. A good friend of mine lives there so she will have all the info.

But going forward, I totally agree that dating sites are NOT the place to be for someone recovering from an N. I will continue to get out more and socialize in the real world. I'm not taking any chances. And actually, I already see an old pattern emerging in me, so I know enough is enough. The games are over. This is my life. I value myself, and I value my life.

I've never truly felt that way before.

online dating

February 18, 2010 - 11:38pm — Barbara (not verified)

you need to start reading this site, daily:

http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com

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I have seen that site

February 18, 2010 - 11:45pm — narcsurvivor

I have seen that site before. I will definitely visit it more often. Ok, you guys have officially scared me:( I will remove my profile. I see how dangerous it can be for me mostly because I have fallen into this pattern before. And before I know it, I'm calling the N again.

I know we are all here to support each other and make us see the cold and hard reality. And I love this forum for that.

75-80% are married, predators or pathologicals

February 18, 2010 - 11:55pm — Barbara (not verified)

if you scroll around the Message Board you will see NUMEROUS posts on the subject of the ABSOLUTE DANGER of ONLINE DATING.

http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2008/09/nh-sexual-predator-uses-online-da...

http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006/06/beware-dangers-of-online-dating.html

Personally, I will never approve of it - EVER! That site? I told my story there 6 years ago. They were the first people who believed me.
http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/06/j-aka-gridney-aka-yidwithlid-...

on the Right Margin here is a poll about Where Members Met Their N... have you SEEN which category is the highest?

NO MORE ONLINE DATING EVER!! NONE OF THOSE SITES ARE SAFE!

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