Just found out my ExNH (of 21yrs) is engaged.................

Just found out my ExNH (of 21yrs) is engaged.................
Posted March 10, 2010 - 3:59pm
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Hi all--

My two best friends and my oldest son came down to my house last night to inform me that my ex is engaged, and has been for several weeks.

We were married for 21 years, divorced for 6 months. He starting dating her in January 2010, moved her in to his home in Feb., and now is engaged. She is my total opposite. 10 years younger, divorced once already, smoker, drinks, big partier, very flirtatious with his friends. I am rather conservative, educated, non-smoker, don't drink,christian, and I'm just blown away by it all. I'm not really upset, just can't believe he chose someone like her. I kind of want to laugh. I sort of feel kind of good about myself when I realized what she is like. Sadly, she will be around my 14 year old son consistenly now. Ugh....

Any insights into the opposite thing or the quick move to date, move in, engage, and marry????

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TexN's picture

Lisa

March 11, 2010 - 12:02am — TexN (not verified)

All i can say is...She better not unpack all her bags cos she's going to be divorcing husband #2 before the wrinkles can come out of the clothes she just unpacked!!!!!!

agnesmurphy17's picture

Quick Moves

March 10, 2010 - 10:11pm — agnesmurphy17

Don't they all move quick? Can't live alone. Need a new victim to extract from.

I left mine in May 2009. Oh man, was he broken up. Weeping. One would have thought his beloeved wife died in a car accident rather than leave him because he was abusive.

Labor Day weekend a new woman moved in. She helped him with all his weeping, I think. They bonded. Or something.

Anyhow, they have broken up 2x in 6 months of living together. These fast to ignite relationships often fizzle out even faster. So your 14 year old may not get to know this woman well.

becoming sane's picture

Mine had an affair

March 10, 2010 - 5:20pm — becoming sane

With my complete opposite, a mutual friend that was too wild for me to be left alone with but he "was helping her through a rough time" so had her at our penthouse repeatedly for "dinner" whilst I was at the other house....they are liars and hypocrites.

rache's picture

Yep

March 10, 2010 - 5:11pm — rache

I think he was desperate to ~NOT~be alone....although,love is not the motivating factor-cared for,nurtured,pampered is-attention...

quietude's picture

I don't think...

March 10, 2010 - 6:16pm — quietude (not verified)

...there's rhyme or reason sometimes in our eyes as to who they pick??
rache brought up a good point, and it's how I feel about my exN conjuring up an old GF of his...he knew he wasn't luring me back after months of trying, so latched onto her.

This woman is no different, he'll be D&D'ing her one day as well...and doubtfully putting up with her flirting with his friends for long. Not that it's a moral thing for them, it's because he's not getting all the attention.

Good riddance, I say.

Barbara's picture

targets of opportunity

March 10, 2010 - 9:07pm — Barbara (not verified)

if they're vulnerable in some way
strong and independent (therefore more FUN to 'take down')
they have a warm orifice

that's it. TARGETS OF OPPORTUNITY... that's all that matters.

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