I received this email in response to my asserting the fact that I wanted a safe and reliable meeting spot for exchanges -- particularly after he choose a spot next to a XXX shop. I choose the library and a restaurant ... completely appropriate and this is what I got ....

oh btw, I ignored it, but what sucks is that this stupidity is going to cost me legal dollars. Is his lawyer a prick or what to defend this and not tell him to shut up. I don't get it. Do they really think this is appropriate?

First let me say again to you that your demand does not conform to the agreement you signed on August 10, 2009.

Be aware that the agreement does not give you a unilateral right to decide on the meeting locations. In fact, the agreement is silent on the nature of the meeting locations and the means by which we are to reach agreement. It merely states that "the parents shall share equally (50/50) all transportation between" their respective homes. Your demand is that I do much more than 50% of the transportation and therefor does not conform.

HOTEL A was previously selected and agreed to by you because you had stated that you wanted to meet at hotel lobbies. This location is 37.95 miles from where you live and 39.25 miles from where I live. If this location was used for exchanges, you would be doing 49.16% of the transportation and I would be doing 50.84%.

You are now demanding that I travel 45.67 miles to pick up S (57.19%) while you travel 34.19 miles - (42.81%). Further, you are also demanding that I meet you at the PLACE B to return S to you.. This location is 39.25 miles from your home and 40.06 from mine. Again, you are demanding that do more than 50% of the transportation and a variance from the contract.

To reiterate my previous statement, I do not feel that there is anything inherently inappropriate about transferring S at HOTEL A. It is a clean hotel facility belonging to a national chain with what we now know is a friendly staff. It is less than a quarter mile from Interstate XX and very easy on/easy off the Interstate for you. I am not aware of any statistical data that indicates there is anything "unsafe" about the location and I am not sure about the motivation for your comments. I would agree that the neighborhood demographics are likely not similar to your own, if that is the basis for you sentiments, but I do not feel it is appropriate to profile people based upon racial or ethnic characteristics. I am surprised that you object, since you have never once expressed any fear in all the time I have known you about visiting you grandmother in Brooklyn, which is certainly a very diverse neighborhood and not very affluent.

I also object to the demand on your part that S be transferred at the children's room of the PLACE C and your assertion that this is an "appropriate" location. In fact, I do not feel that it is appropriate at all, because as you are well aware. S is very familiar with libraries and to enter into a library will create an expectation of library-based activities for her. Thus, I believe it is poor judgment on your part and you are setting S up for disappointment and perhaps even a tantrum if she doesn't get to stay at the library. I think this is very unfair to her if our plans happen to be different and incompatible with the expectation that she would now have.

Since it is you who personally finds the HOTEL A objectionable, I propose that you agree to drive slightly further south and meet me for both pick ups and drop offs at the HOTEL D. This distance is 40.83 miles for you, and only about 1.5 miles more than the PLACE B location you demanded. Again, you have expressed a desire for hotel lobbies on multiple occasions in the past. In fact, since travel to the PLACE C involves significant surface street use, you will likely find travel to HOTEL D even faster than the library, as this national chain hotel abuts Interstate XX and there are ramps immediately next to the hotel. I invite you to explore the location on Google maps and satellite view. Judging from your previous comments, you will likely find this location appealing.

All distances are calculated using directions by the shortest route from Mapquest.com, an impartial source of travel information.

I would also remind you that I requested a 12 PM meeting time for March 20. 2010 on a one time basis to accommodate flight availabilities.

Please let me know your reply to my proposal as soon as possible. If you do not agree to my proposal or offer a reasonable counterproposal for my review which respects my concerns within the next 24 hours, I will proceed to request that this issue be resolved through my lawyer, as time is of the essence.