Can I hear a loud virtual applause please because today -- I did not engage !!! Yay !! My daughter's father did exactly what I expected he would do and I let him talk to the hand. So, for this spring break trip he was ordered time with her on Feb 28-Mar 3. He didn't like that at all and had his lawyer send a letter asking for extra time on Feb, 27, an early drop off on Feb. 28 and then an extra overnight tonight and tomorrow. If we said yes to all that -- what good would the order be. It was given by the judge to protect her from needless disruption. Before he went to his lawyer to have him write us the letter -- he wrote me and asked me to give him the time and when I said no, he then went to my lawyer and asked--- my lawyer's response was that this was "a disingenious attempt to circumvent the Order" and no and because of her email rule she charged me $300 for it. So we left it there and that was that, but he hates rules -- boy does he hate rules -- they don't apply to him.

This week when he called my daughter -- she said "good bye Daddy I will see you this weekend" which the sick bastard planted in her brain - gratefully she does not know what that means -- again another thing for the GAL somehow -- because he is putting her in teh middle of our conflict. I knew he wasn't going to quite with 2 nos -- why would he? so today, he tried calling 2x, and left 2 txt messages and 2 emails trying to get me to relent. So not only did I stand my ground -- I ignored him completely. I don't owe him anything on this issue -- it has been asked and answered ! Yay me -- I sat on my hands -- ignored him. It is kind of like standing on a prairie, going downstairs for shelter and waiting for the tornado to pass --- man, oh man though, he has me so trained because when the calls started my anxiety kicked in, my heart started racing, and I wanted to respond though the request was ridiculous. I just felt so much fear and then I realized the reason I feel fear is because all these years I engaged when I didn't need to and the engagement causes drama. Not engaging left for a wonderful day to be enjoyed.