Barbara posted on another thread Am I Who He Says I Am by Sandra Brown.

Wow, I wonder if I hold a record and could be a Guinnes World record candidate for asserting my self and endless explanations to pathalogicl persons? Sigh, I even believed "if I could just get through" to the other so he or she "understand" me, or another person in the context I or another is not doing what the pathalogical says, defines, "if only he/she could differentiate or distinguish". I might as well have believed "if only" then a big boulder could become a dove flying around spreading peace!!lol

It would benefit me to have discussions bout the information presented by Sandra Brown. I have an adult life time of false guilt and blame I could not "get through" to a pathalogical person and holding myself as having faults e.g. "I must not have been clear, or I might have used more appropriate and then clear words. Talk about throwing one's self at brick walls!

by sandra Brown
This view of the world is processed thru his own pathological disorder which is why his view of the world is not like normal people's view. His is negative, self focused, grandiose, paranoid, critical, self promoting. He sees others as always wrong, out to get him, stupid or inept.

He sees himself as right, the victim, or the only one that knows anything at all. He sees you as the re-victimizer of him, wonderful and yet horrible, needed and yet hated, smart yet dependent on him, in need of his brilliance, faulty without him, as pathological as he is...

This is why no one can get through to pathalogical persons.
This is why per pathalogicals I'd "be fixed" if I accepted the projections, admit and agree "own the behaviors" and the pathalogical intentions, interpersonal malice and agree 'all people" do the same things.

This is also why pathalogicals project they "don't effect you or anyone" for no one can effect or get through to them. This is why it makes no difference and does not matter what others do or say because pathalogicals are insane that everyone is wrong about their own self except the pathalogical.

Seven years later I fully comprehend why a counselor told me "it would have made no difference who he married, you could have been any one" for a pathalogical person relates, defines, shoves information through his or her pathalogical filter including strangers they pass on the street. It did not matter who our children were either(per the P all four were him as a child), nor coworkers, nor neighbors to pathalogicals everyone is their sick, depraved and disturbed self. This is why even taking sailing lessons pathalogicals "know everything" even as they set said backwards opposing the wind and go no where..everyone including master sailing instructors are "all wrong"and the P is "right".

I was not nor am I the "insane person" nor has it been anyone except the P.