What happens when you are deemed worthless and then discarded...?

What happens when you are deemed worthless and then discarded...?
Posted February 14, 2010 - 3:05am
0

...and you actually care that he ignores you and finds you to be tossed out with the trash?

Even if he bullied and threatened me in recent past, at least I was hearing from him so I know I was getting to him. But the last 2 months have been silence and nothing but silence. And now I know that he's probably moved on.

And I hate that it bothers me that he doesn't want me anymore. I know logically it's for the best FOR ME, but emotionally I still want him to long for me. I miss him. I hate that I care!!!! I get so angry knowing that I am deemed worthless and am discarded.

‹ Narcissists Most Aggressive When Criticized I feel like a horrible person for wishing ill upon him ›
baddream's picture

You must stop thinking this way.

February 14, 2010 - 12:11pm — baddream

You must stop feeling worthless and missing him. He is giving you the silent treatment, devalued and discarded, and you must never go back to him, even if he tries to come back.

What you have written is the cycle of an abuser. The best thing for you is to stay NC no matter what happens, do something nice for yourself today, and move on.

Barbara's picture

PiscesJNJ

February 14, 2010 - 5:42am — Barbara (not verified)

you are giving the opinion of a Pathological Predator who used you for free sex WAY too much weight.

http://www.lisaescott.com/2009/06/24/understanding-narcissists-cycle-ide...

have you read Lisa's book?
gone through the entire MESSAGE BOARD and clicked on topics that interest you?
Read the WHOLE 'MY BLOG' section?
Read many of the SHARE YOUR STORY postings?

here's one post you will get something out of:
http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/03/27/what-they-say-vs-what-they-re...

this is nothing new...
REMEMBER:
"Pathologicals only discard the best, the most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They keep fellow abusers, gossips & enabling lackeys close. They despise the principled & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation!" - A. Valerious

~~~~~~~~~
The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem

Visit My Abuse Website

rache's picture

they'll never long for you....

February 14, 2010 - 3:21am — rache

the way you want as they are self serving,and,not motivated by your feelings,only,what they can USE you for.There will always be a replacement supply.Young girls,women,older ladies=it doesn't matter=he'll take what he can from anyone he can,and,there will always be a fresh supply unfortunantly.

Piscesdream's picture

But how can he not long for

February 14, 2010 - 3:31am — Piscesdream

But how can he not long for me? It's not like that old man can get sex from any woman...he's an old mid-50's ugly man.

Why does he look at my online profile? Why did he bolt when he saw me for the first time in months?

Barbara's picture

longing is a HUMAN emotion

February 14, 2010 - 5:34am — Barbara (not verified)

He's NOT HUMAN... please keep read the WHOLE MY BLOG section, all the posts - these are PATHOLOGICAL people - not regular guys... not just a**holes... their brains are literally wired different... they are sick...

Why does he look at my online profile?
Narcissists see EVERYONE as a 2-dimensional object. Even if he doesn't want you, he will consider you a 'possession.' Many exes here, who have been cruel and hateful towards their victims - still stalk them. Heck, Psycho-Boy threatens to kill me, yet he stalks my blogs. You are a thing... and they must have control

Why did he bolt when he saw me for the first time in months?
Because he believes you have seen behind his mask of sanity. Seen the non-human, soul-sucking, sex addicted pathological he truly is. It's too much for them to deal with - the reality of someone knowing what they TRULY ARE.

~~~~~~~~~
The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem

Visit My Abuse Website

rache's picture

mine is

February 14, 2010 - 3:37am — rache

66,fat-268,bald on top,wrinkled but he has money and claims all the young girls want oral.gets online pretending to be younger and from different states to get phone/cyber sex.there will always be prostitutes as well-they do not care.i am 13 years younger tbhan he-look like an older version of angelina j,and,120 pds-it dont freaking matter-they want variety.......ns is all they care about.

Piscesdream's picture

I so badly just want to get

February 14, 2010 - 3:16am — Piscesdream

I so badly just want to get every gift he's ever given to me (which were mostly free shit he got from his movie production company) and mail to his home or leave it on his front door step for his family to see. I will never do this.

I want to hit him soooo hard in the face and kick him in his nuts. I get soooo angry sometimes when I think of him. Most of the time I am sad. I get glimpses of "I don't care about him and I'm happier without him". But I think about him constantly and I just want karma to kick him in his ass sooooo badly.

I HATE that he gets away with his behavior and how he treats others. I HATE that he is unaffected by how he hurts others. I so badly want him to be ignored by anyone and everyone and I know that will never happen. I'm serious, I really wish for me to haunt him in his dreams and for him to miss me and wish we were still together.

Piscesdream's picture

Ha...Chinese astrology

February 14, 2010 - 3:28am — Piscesdream

Ha...Chinese astrology predicts this monkey man will have a bad year (2010). Hope that's true!!!!

rache's picture

PiscesJNJ

February 14, 2010 - 12:06pm — rache

OBSESSION is NOT a good thing,and,you need to do something that will take your focus OFF him! You sound almost like Glen close in FATAL ATTRACTION! PLEASE DO something for you that will totally take the focus off him.You are young,and,have your whole life/future ahead of you.Stop giving this man who never loved you any of your time/energy...HE is not worth it.And,you aren't the first or last he'll use.HE is NOT your concern anymore,he,has a wife and family(WHO SHOULD BE PITIED!).Get on with your life and leave him to his fate.