That is a very good article. I still have anger towards my XN, but I feel it's healthy anger. It is what will keep me from getting sucked back in. It doesn't consume me, but I can't remember the last time I had a positive thought about him. I'm sure it was quite a while before we even broke up. If I think about him it is always something negative. And I believe it's healthy to feel this way. I'm finding as time goes on I think about him less and less, but when I do, it's still negative.

Now I realize that I wasn't with him because I thought he was a great person, it was because he made me believe he was a great person. He had me ignoring so many red flags it makes my head swim now.

I just have to remember where that anger for him is tucked away so that in weeks or months or years down the road, if he finds me, I will have the strength to once again tell him to piss off.