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The smear campaign has began!
whatever2009
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The smear campaign has began!
Posted February 1, 2010 - 1:07pm
So ladies. My ExN is now beginning the smear campaign.
Its really pathetic, apparently people just stare at him blankly. He seems to just be fishing for info. I use to spend every weekend (when I didnt have my kids) with him at HIS house. I own my own and have been out with my girlfriends, some of which have bf's who talk to him, I dunno whats said, as I dont give anyone any info. However, a friend who has no idea he is an N, and just thinks he's
hurting said that he said,
"whatever2009 is the kinda girl that fucks guys to get over one so I cant even imagine whats been going on over there"
She pretended not to hear him.he then asked her why she and I feel we have to stay out until 6am. She walked away. Ive asked her to continue to do that she said, she would, as she finds him irritating.
At first I was angry, but today I started smiling to myself thinking, wow no contact is driving him to this now. He's such a dirtbag. Anyway, I of course have ignored it, still DEFINITELY 100% no contact, just annoyed with the drama is all.
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whatever 2009
February 1, 2010 - 3:23pm — GettingOutI think that, in my case, my divorcing the N made him not look good. So, he did what any good N would do - told anyone who would listen how rotten I was - including his children. The two older ones who don't live at home were blessed with endless calls from him screaming about thier whore mother who was a greedy bitch. Nice huh? BTW, I have no boyfriend and the funds I will get from the divorce are nothing more than what I deserve.
Yours is doing the same Nish thing. They could not admit what really happened could they? Never.
Throughout this whole ordeal, other than venting to a close friend, my mother, and my therapist, I've said nothing mean about him. It's hard. But I wouldn't want anyone telling him I said bad things about him because that would just fuel the fire. Of course, I don't say anything nice either. Just silence. Must be deafening for an N.
asshole!
February 1, 2010 - 3:08pm — whatever2009Oh yes!
and he is telling people the only reason he is "going crazy" is because no one will tell him anything about me.
ha
February 1, 2010 - 3:31pm — quietude (not verified)Sorry, but you can't GO TO somewhere you already ARE! :P
hahaa
February 1, 2010 - 3:39pm — whatever2009So true.
Talk about pathetic.
I picture his fists going, and his face getting red saying, "someone tell me something"
whatever2009
February 1, 2010 - 4:06pm — Barbara (not verified)and remember you said you COULDN'T GO NC a few months back!
you cut off his supply. Keep it up. Big baby is gonna shoot himself in the foot.
Paybacks a bitch, ain't it?
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No Contact is the greatest thing Ive ever done!!!!
February 1, 2010 - 4:35pm — whatever2009Ladies, really the ULTIMATE payback is no contact.
I mean he hasn't even tried to contact me, but the mere
fact he is running all over the place smearing me and asking questions, lets me know, this is killing him.
Payback is a bitch, and so is he! A little whinny bitch who is getting what he deserves. I have no desire even to talk to him. He makes me sick.
I wonder whats up his sleeve next?? more smearing? another tantrum? Whatever, cuz none of that will give him me.
I win.
Good for you!
February 1, 2010 - 2:10pm — racheI have enjoyed NO CONTACT actually this weekend(2)days now.Listening to his constant cell phone rings-60+ todays count.I have NOT been tempted to answer,as,i have reminded myself of the fact he just wants to hurt me-in more ways than one! His cyber cheating and meeting to cheat.He is 66 years old and in to 3 years of end-stage heart disease.Fitting for him as he hurt so manys hearts in his miserable life.
60 calls?
February 1, 2010 - 4:15pm — Barbara (not verified)that's severe harassment
for GOSH SAKE change your phone number!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
call your cell company - tell them you just divorced an abuser and have them either block him or change your number.
and keep a log and MAKE sure that detective and the FBI gets it - and cc: his local precinct as well.
If he can leave messages he's ASSUMING you still want to hear from him and you are NOT REALLY NC!!!!
He sounds seriously psychotic with sociopathic features... a deadly combination.
DO THIS NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I agree
February 1, 2010 - 10:08pm — rachehe definitely is beyond NARCISSISTIC! And,i believe his ex #3 is pathological too and they feed in to each others sickness.He told me once she said i should have done what my brother suggested and cut your throat in your sleep.
Calls
February 1, 2010 - 10:04pm — racheHe cannot leave messages,only,call it.I just found out someone closed my bank account and it wasn't me! I wrote new post about it!
rache
February 1, 2010 - 10:14pm — Barbara (not verified)then how did you know & post about WHAT he was calling about?
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The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem
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Last time
February 1, 2010 - 10:40pm — racheI answered phone was saturday morning at 9 am.I told him i did not want to talk to him about anything else,and,i was done.He said just wait two days from now and you won't have anything.That was last time i heard his voice.I put two and two together when i couldnt withdraw enough money to pay for my hair!
Must add
February 1, 2010 - 11:03pm — rachethis is MY money,MY bank account-another state 2000+ miles away from him..I took nothing from him in divorce-only 3 months married to him.He's spent a year trying to get me sucked back.This is identity theft and social security is federal.
changing phone number
February 1, 2010 - 5:26pm — LydiaI found that sometimes that doesn't help. Made it worse. We can block numbers too.
and soryy for the multiple posts. I rec'd a spam filter message and did't realize that they were posting. sorry.
60 calls+
February 1, 2010 - 5:00pm — racheYes,its probably closer to 70 now=went out to eat,got a hair appt at 4:pm,my doc called me in some PAXIL to pick up and the drug store doesnt close til 7pm here,so,gonna get in a pedicure.Left the cell at the house,and,i can HONESTLY say i haven't missed talking to the bastard.I have been kinda deprograming myself,as,i just see everything he told me as lies(they were) and i do not question anymore(no more what ifs).From everything i see and read here there is no point in making excuses for them,trying to HELP them,being in denial(how can we when its right here in our faces)or,thinking they will get better! We should be thanking the other women/or woman for taking out our trash.But,i am just talking from someone who no longer gives a sh.t.Like the old song(country) says- my give a damn ,doesnt give a damn anymore! And just to think that sob always said I KNOW you love me rache.....yeah,think again buddy-my love don't live here anymore.
60+ calls...Sounds so very familar-calls, calls, calls,
February 1, 2010 - 5:21pm — LydiaCrazy.
Calls, Calls. Never call you again. Then more calls.
The voice messages have a braod range of vulgarity to them as well. People whom he has told that he doesn't even speak to me anymore are amazed at my call log. Which I now erase. And it's not like I run around and show it to people.I have been in some not great relationships, but this is incredible. Incredible that it is so hard to believe. And then, I am the one who looks frazzled. He is looking just fine. What did these guys do before cell phones? ha.
smearing
February 1, 2010 - 1:52pm — quietude (not verified)Ya, they're pretty much gonna trash us to people, how else can they make excuses for what happened? They have to lie or risk looking like the scumbags that they are! I'm sure my ex has made up a very creative story about what happened between us...oh well!
I'm glad your friend walked away, but as soon as she says anything related to the N, put your hand up and tell her NO, you don't want hear it. Ugh, how can she even stand being in the same zipcode as he is, much less the same room...
People who know you know the truth.
You are doing sooo well...Good girl! :)
loser
February 1, 2010 - 1:22pm — moving onWhat a freaking loser! That is that "rage mask" that they use to hide the fact that they are actually hurt by your no contact. Good job on annoying an N. Stick to NC. It will just be more fuel to the fire :)
Change your number, or you are entertaining harassment
February 1, 2010 - 10:52pm — AmazedChange your number if he is doing this, or you are welcoming harassment.
If you want you life to become absorbed with this, then keep the number, the phone calls coming.
Otherwise, as we recommend, disconnect totally.
It is the only way, you have to do it.
Gone baby, like white on rice.
Take his crap off you and be gone!!!!
My sister doesnt deserve to be harrassed by him
February 1, 2010 - 11:10pm — racheShe just informed me that he is calling her on a restricted number playing cajun music .I ask her how long has he been calling,and,guess what?Since i wouldn't answering his calls.Then,someone closes my bank account.My Mr N is no just narcissistic-he and his ex #3 are criminals and who lure women online to use for money.
rache
February 2, 2010 - 12:32am — Barbara (not verified)she needs to report him to police too.
demand to make a report and make her keep a copy
and have her change her number also
be at the bank 2morrow as soon as it opens
get that sociopath locked up
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The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem
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I'm going first thing today-its 3 am here -
February 2, 2010 - 5:10am — racheI couldn't sleep very well,did, have a short nap.I told her she needed to change her number,and,that its going to get worse.