surround yourself with good people

surround yourself with good people
Posted January 3, 2010 - 4:17pm
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My mom took daughter to N for the exchange bc I was at work the other day.

Of course when I called to talk to my daughter that night I got an ear full.

"If you're gonna have your mom continue to drop her off (this was the second time in 13 months BTW,) I'm gonna have to...
Blah blah blah blipity blah....I literally held the phone away from my face so I don't know what his threat was)

Anyway, today my mom said "I have a whole new admiration for you picking her up from him bc it makes me sick to look at him. His face just makes me sick"

That made me feeol good.

Surround yourself with people who feel that way about your N. It helps. Even if that's only a few people.

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It is good for people to

January 3, 2010 - 5:37pm — Carolyn

It is good for people to give re-enforcement. this fool will always be problematic. Everything is a struggle with these men and peace and quiet is something they don't like. all the blah blah is control blah blah. By holding out the phone you didn't have to get the poison pellet type words in your mind. You are brave, now your mother sees whats up, and who knows a few tapings of those phone calls might get you sole custody. You have to find out if it is ok in your area to do that if you are in the US things vary from state to state.

Try telling him, "you talk to much and people are laughing at you" they don't like to be in a 'bad reputation' place with others! Go figure everyone who gets to know them runs for the door its one of their many odd ideas.

Maybe Your mom is someone who scares him because she doesn't boogey with his bull.

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BTW

January 3, 2010 - 5:20pm — grossot

Blah blah blah blipity blah is something I saw Barbara wrote on here regarding what someone's N said (I believe it was chicken f'er)

http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview

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grossot

January 3, 2010 - 4:19pm — Barbara (not verified)

oh don't let him stop you

if you need your Mom to drop her off -- continue! He's probably scared of your Mom! LOL

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That's great!! He can

January 3, 2010 - 4:29pm — MsVulcan500

That's great!! He can probably see on your mom's face that she can't stand the sight of him. Just wait until you are at that point too. That's when you know you will truly be free of him.

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Lol! Yea - think he is

January 3, 2010 - 5:59pm — grossot

Lol!

Yea - think he is scared of her. And don't worry- I'm already at that point. Ever since I saw him crossing the line with our daughter, seeing his face makes me sick.

This is funny:
N's gf's ex husband (we'll call him Ray)had words with N. He was justified believe me - N interfering with gf/Ray's kids' schedule. Anyway- during the 'words' Ray called N 'boy' several times. N just stood and said nothing (according to Ray). When Ray got out to his truck and up the road, N had texted him "I am not a boy"

ROFLMAO

the next week N was trying to bully me via email and questioned the time we agreed for him to get daughter (he knew the time). So (sorry Barbara- I just could not stop myself): the next day I emailed him '2:00 like I said, boy'

He didn't like it. He said "interesting, its like someone told you to say that. You do know I'm not a boy, don't you?'

http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview

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Breaking NC Worked!

January 3, 2010 - 6:05pm — MsVulcan500

I love it!! I am laughing so hard over this. I'm sure that just made your day, it would have made mine.

This is one time breaking NC was definitely worth it!

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Another example of how he wants to isolate you and control

January 3, 2010 - 6:16pm — Amazed

Geez,,he can't even permit to have his very daughter's grandmother pick her up,,pleeez..

He trying to control that is ludicrious, and bullying you because he feels he is loosing ground, and not in control.

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haha

January 3, 2010 - 6:12pm — grossot

Glad you liked that. Don't be too hard on me Barbara!

http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview

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grossot

January 3, 2010 - 9:13pm — Barbara (not verified)

oh that's ok - I call exNH his psychopath mother's name once in a while...

he will text me AFTER (verrrry passive-aggressive) and say he doesn't like it. BOO FRIGGIN HOO...

do you really think I am gonna pound you? you're beyond that now grossot... I hope ;}

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Barbara

January 3, 2010 - 10:03pm — grossot

No- I was hoping it was permissable with NC- I won't let it get out of control though. It actually helped me view myself as bigger than him.

Poor little Narcy's. Someone was being mean to them (insert pouty lips, sad face)

Tonight I picked daughter up from him. My mom went with me. He may be afraid of her but he still has her under a spell. 99% of the time he puts dd into my car in her carseat. Tonight he brought her to my side of the and they were shiv ering. When I cracked the window to see what he could possibly have to say he said, "are you gonna put her in?"

My mom jumped up and did it! I think she just didn't want to see dd shivering in the cold.

Stupid Narc!

http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview

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grossot

January 3, 2010 - 10:56pm — Barbara (not verified)

how petty!! what an IDIOT!!

well now... maybe people wouldn't call him BOY if he didn't BEHAVE LIKE ONE!

hugs grossot

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