Bella001's story
Bella001's story
Hi,
This is my first time on this sight or any sight like this but feel that my ex's behavior falls into Narcissist catagory and I have fallen for his manipulative behavior time and time again. I am too ashamed to really tell my friends or family the full story. I met this guy about 4 years ago. He was actually my friends live in boyfriend at the time. We were all friends and I got to know him pretty well. He did a few things I thought were kinda strange but was always nice to me.
During the time we were friends I met a guy and became engaged. The four of us would hang out alot. Anyway, my engagement ended and this guy would call and see how I was doing. At first I didn't see the harm because he was the one that generally made the plans for all of us. Then he began saying little things that made me think he is going a little to far but was sad and felt lonely and the support was good. Then he finally told me he had feelings for me. I hung up on him but I had already began falling for him. I told my friend what her boyfriend had done and that I really didn't want a part of it. He kept pushing and pursuing. Texting me both loving and mean things. I felt caught in the vicious cycle that I didn't know how to get out of. My friend pretty much cut me off and I guess I felt kinda alone and needing someone. Eventually he did leave his girlfriend. I told him not to leave for me and there was no guarentees with me. I know I was wrong and felt a huge amount of guilt for a long time over this.
Anyway, once we started dating every time we had problems he would say he was going back to her and would txt and say horrible things to me. He eventually went back to her when I had had enough. He basically used her for money as she was paying his bills and for a car he purchased while we were dating. I had no clue! While at the same time he said he loved me more that anyone other than his daughter and pursued me hard when I tried to walk away. Due to this we broke up for a year and then he ran into a financial crisis.
Out of the kindness of my heart I said he could stay with me for a bit, which lasted maybe 3 months. He left because he could not handle that I wasn't here at home with him all the time. Needless to say this didn't end well. I will spare the additional details other than the fact I truly tried to help him even though I wouldn't let him back in when he begged. That was a year ago.
Over the year we have had limited contact and he has found creative ways of contacting me. A couple of weeks ago I contacted him in a moment of weakness. I had been sick for about 3 weeks with cold/flu and feeling alone. He tried playing nice and sweet. Shortly after I found out he had started dating my ex fiance's sister. He claims he didn't know that it was her. Most likely a lie on that one but she is pregnant with twins. She got pregnant on the 2nd date. This will be her 7th kid. 3 were taken away by DCFS.
This asshole has the nerve to tell me I can be in the kids life. He let me knowing I would find out. I admit I freaked and left several not nice messages. Ok stupid yes but God how much can I take.
This SOB goes and plays my messages to mutual friends.
Right now I am hurt, angry, pissed off, and generally confused. How did I let this happen and how was I so blind.
Bella
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