Butterfly3572's story

Inspite of all the hard evidience I presented in court at our child custody trail (yes we had a trial that ended up costing me $25K), including a 3111 child custody evalution with a licensed psychologist, harrassing emails, texts, phone calls and police statements when he broke into my home, etc. to prove my ex is a self-centered, sense of entiled, emotionally abusive manipulator, the judge residing over my child custody case just gave my ex 50% custody of our children.

I am devistated that a person can emotional abuse their spouse/children and get away with it. If I had bruises on my body, things would have gone differently. He played the famous "victim" card and the judge fell for it. To top it all off, the judge said things to me that left me feeling like I'm a crazy hyper-sensitive woman. The judge actually rolled his eyes when I told him I DIDN'T want my ex coming to my home to pick up the kids.

I am so disappointed with the judicial system in California. My ex still emails, texts and calls me daily to harass me with non-child custody related issues. Oh yes, I tired to get a restraining order but I was given a limited contact order instead from the same judge. Now that judge doesn't hold my ex accountable when he crosses boundaries and breaks the limited contact court order.

I am living a nightmare!!! I don't know where to go from here. I am trying to ignore his harassment the best I can but for those of you who know what I am going through, it is an energy-sucking, tiresome battle. Having no contact is impossible with children involved. Anyone out there have any advice on how to deal with this monster, the ex.

I pray that one day very soon, the family law court system will acknowledge that emotional abuse is real, tramatic and leaves the victim with deep hidden wombs inside that may never heal and handles it in the same manner as physical abuse is.