I'm new to the site and wanted to share my story with everyone and maybe give and receive some advice of my own. I've been married for 26 years and had to "disconnect" myself from my husband in order to reach the point of filing for divorce. I caught him with another woman several weeks back, he continued calling me at all hours of the morning indicating he wanted to work things out. I caught him with this same woman a week later although he was telling me something different.
I'm trying to be as cordial as possible throughout the divorce. He makes five times the amount of money that I make. Our youngest child is 18 and a senior in high school. I spoke with an attorney yesterday and he said I could go for child support until my child finishes college. I'm terrified of what he may do if I tried to go for alimony or all the equity in the house.
Could someone please share their experience in dealing with a narcissist throughout the divorce proceedings? Should I do as little as possible when it comes to upsetting him and not go after alimony? He didn't even want to involve an attorney and I told him I was using one. I want everything documented and legal.
I don't think he intends to hire his own attorney. Of course, if I asked for alimony he may.