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#1 Oct 18 - 2AM
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I will give you details in point form,
6months so far
sex is at moments very loving
introduced me to tantra
low libido,inside me then pulls out,won't kiss me anywhere but my lips and you know down in the sacred area.uses hands
used to masturbate alot before me
longest relationhip 8 months
never been taken out on a real date, not even coffee
We bike and hike
lives with mom and dad, separate suite
left house only for a year lived with his brother
50 years old
he loves birds, forest water ,nature
tells me he loves me, I do the stroking of his ego
he doesn't want to get married
no children,
I told him what I wanted, and that was a healthy relationship..
I feed him
Only comes over on days off, or the next day.
Hungry and tired
works in moving industry
never met his friends, but new of each other in high school
okay I'm goig to stop now this is a lot for me

any questions for me maybe i can figure out whats going on

Oct 18 - 1PM
Barbara (not verified)
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you are not a free whore

sounds a lot like my ex-Psychopath, Psycho-Boy you'll have to read my story my take - you're his "DIRTY LITTLE SECRET" and his "UNDERCOVER WHORE" Please - RUN SCREAMING...... Are you getting the vibe that maybe you're not the only woman in your guy's life? That perhaps he's sneaking around? Check out these give-aways that your man may well be married. (or in a relationship) (Unfortunately, it does happen!) 1. You only meet a few (or no) friends "It's obvious that something's amiss if he insulates you from his life and you don't meet his friends or family. But even if he does introduce you to certain people in his inner circle, is it always the same small group as opposed to a variety of people and at various occasions? Limiting your contact with his friends and family to a select group usually means he has a network of people who know he's cheating and go along with it." -- David Lieberman, Ph.D., author of Never Be Lied to Again 2. He won't stay local "A tell-tale sign is that he always chooses restaurants or activities that are far, far away from where he lives. He certainly wouldn't want to take a date anywhere in his neighborhood because there's a very strong likelihood that someone would recognize him." -- Charles T. Rahn, a former police office and owner of A Very Private Eye, which offers a Check A Date service. 3. You only know his cell-phone number "A bad sign is that he only gives you a cell phone number, not a home number, and gives you some excuse about how he's never home (so his cell is the best way to reach him) or that he doesn't have a land line. Or he doesn't give you any number and explains why it's best for him to always call you." -- Gilda Carle, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of Don't Bet on the Prince! How to Have the Man You Want by Betting on Yourself 4. He pulls the hand-to-mouth move "One big clue: When you ask him about his past relationships or if he's been married before, he shows lying behaviors like looking away or down or putting his hand over his mouth. These are classic body-language signs that show he's holding back and not wanting to reveal everything about himself. Another sign of lying is clearing his throat, licking his lips, or touching his nose. Research shows that blood vessels in the nose actually get larger when you lie, and he's feeling that happen, which makes him touch his nose." -- Dr. Lillian Glass, body-language expert and author of Toxic People Also if he calls the ex(es) "psycho, stalkers, scorned women, obsessed, crazy"... etc... GET AWAY. You're next on his she's-a-psycho-list! 5. Case the car he drives "One tip off can be the kind of car he has. The married guy I dated drove a Volvo station wagon even though he said he was divorced with grown kids. A single guy wouldn't drive a family car." -- Annie, a New York City woman who went on ten dates with a married man 6. Look for the photo evidence "Take note if you see photos of other women in his office, wallet or anywhere else and he seems to make excuses for them. My married guy said the photo he had was his ex-fiancée. Of course it was his wife." -- Carley, a New York City woman who dated a married man for six weeks 7. Beware the blabbermouth "A red flag that he's deceiving you is too much talking. For example, you say, 'I'd like to see where you live' or 'I'll meet you at your place.' Instead of responding with, 'Sure,' or 'When', you get too many long and detailed explanations about why he can't." -- Sonia Choquette, Ph.D., psychic and author of Trust Your Vibes 8. He's all about the 'weekend getaway' "He's probably married if he never suggests that two of you go away together. Or if the only time you do go away is when he goes out of town on business because that kind of trip gives him ample cover from his wife." -- David Lieberman, Ph.D. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Oct 18 - 12PM
Barbara (not verified)
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freebie

sounds like you're the freebie he probably has a girlfriend/ wife stashed somewhere DUMP HIM AND GO NO CONTACT IMMEDIATELY
Oct 18 - 9AM
Chloe
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Not enough info...

To me, from what you are saying, it seems that he is sexually inexperienced, is in fear of getting you pregnant, immature, not worldly, maybe some attachment issues, not sure about the job scene and living at home stuff, could HE be the one helping HIS parents out? As far as narcissistic issues, what you are mentioning is not enough to surmize, and while we don't diagnose, we all here have enough experience to KNOW. HOw old is he? That's important here, as you say he never really dated. Sounds also like some low self-esteem issues as well. Sounds like a flounderer, not quite sure what to do or where to go. Also, how does he treat you? Look out for the red flags.
Oct 18 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
4joys (not verified)
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Welcome. What's your

Welcome. What's your question? Is he a narc? What draws you to this site? After reading here, what can you relate to?
Oct 18 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
sheebee2009 (not verified)
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I have a nagging feeling!

confused OK, I'll do my best here to explain,Bare with me:) We went to school together 30 years ago in between that we had no contact..We knew of each other in our social circles thats it. In Feb. of this year I joined a well know site. Out of the blue he left me a message saying hi and what have i been up to. My first marriage brought me to beautiful sons,22 and 23 now, very abusive relationship.very unhealthy. My second partner I was with we had a beautiful daughter who is almost 10, he died 3 years ago next month, he over dosed,I had no clue "the big denial another unhealthy relationship. I went through terrible grief and depression 3 months before that my dad passed away.I never thought or even imagined I could open my heart again or love. I told all this to my now new partner. He asked me for coffee and I hesitated.So my spirit was getting healthy again,so i decided to say what about the water, I love being around the water and it was along time since I had been into the world.I met him at his house he was waiting for me outside with a beautiful smile I felt an instant attraction.(maybe loneliness at first) fast forward now. I'm 49 he's 50, never been married,no kids and still lives at home.1rst flag,longest relationship for him was 8 months.few dates thats it.His parents are healthy.Yes very immature when it comes to relationships, he said i was experienced, right there I stopped him and said, don't look to me my relationships were very unhealthy. He needs constant stocking of his ego doesn't put sex on his list of priorities long time masturbate and porn watcher,I guess you could think of it this way he was alone, BUT WHY? I went through this site and found allot of similarities, sex drive He makes the decisions he calls three times maybe more a day, I don't work do to a back accident 4 years ago. I start to talk and then it changes to him I'm low on his priority, but he says he needs to work but in a condescending way. he has never taken me out for dinner,coffee anything.He didn't tell his parents I was his girlfriend till a month ago I have been to his house several times. our discussions about sex always comes to the conclusion, that hes not used to me, or hes tired, or its not all about sex. But he will touch me and hug me. He gets frustrated very easily. he wants every thing we do to be in the now!lets just go slow his favorite quote, besides rub my back,I'm tire i need a snack. He doesn't like the way I kiss him some times he takes the lead.certain areas of his body I cannot touch. He never massages my breast , just my back and the private area,he will only kiss my lips.He'd rather see me in boxers our Jammie's sexy nighties don't do anything for him unless its crotchless, now I'm embarrassed:(I feel he likes me better in clothes.But yet he says I'm the best hes ever had! I really need to know some more signs or is there anything I can ask him to make him slip up in away, I feel deep inside of me theres something up, hes very emotional at times especially if I tell him maybe we should back off a bit, he freaks out and cry like a Baby.I know this is long and I'm sorry but I'm falling hard with my heart and the sexual intimacy is only available when he wants it, he even covers himself with his hands if i go to start to touch him down there. when we are touching ,kissing and hes getting me all worked up then bang he pulls away or starts to penetrate me then pulls out and finishes me off with his fingers not want i want.any input or more questions for me are truly welcome. xo
Oct 18 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
4joys (not verified)
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And you want to be with him?

And you want to be with him? Why? He seems very odd. Lots of sexual problems. Infant behavior. A guy who never grew up and doesnt know how to even pretend to be normal. This guy did not develop for some reason. I would pass this guy by. get away.