I have recently learned that the guy I was dating and 'building a life with' was leading a double life, and complete pathological liar and as i have recently learned, is a professional con man and psychopath.
He has lied to me for years. I was ' the one for him' he texted me this daily. He asked me ' what about getting 'our house' not just 'your house' talked to me about getting a 'joint checking account' as an important step to 'building and preparing for a successful future together'
What is learned one day, when he ignored my texts for 10 hours, was that he had a full blown relationship with another woman. I found them in the car.
When confronted, she jumped in the car, and told me to take her to her house. I Told this woman everything, about my relationship with him.
I told her about how he was seeing me, and he dated me for over 3 years, and that he told me is was not seeing anyone else. He wanted to 'take our relationship slow' and wouldn't get together with me on the weekends because he was coming out of a divorce, and it was still kind of painful for him.
I hold her how he texted me sexual things everynight from her 'home' it was not his home but HER house he was living in, and that he left her house every morning only to come and kiss me at the office (Lisa I want to read your new book)
This man is such a complete liar, it is insane. Literally.
He told me he was going home everyday, when this was in fact a lie, he was going home to the woman's house. He lied about vacation he went on, he would move pictures of her around when I went to his house, and would put pictures of me up instead when I went to his housec(hiding hers).
But get this, when his 'other woman' or 'wife type' figure found all this out, she said this happened to her in a previous marriage (married to a cheater) took her 1 year of therapy to get over it, and couldn't believe it was happening again.
She vowed she was never getting back together with him, and that 'she or I would be the biggest fools' if we ever got back together.
Well he broke her down,, I would say, BRAINWASHED her, and told her that everything I said was a lie and now he is back in her life, and it is like he got away with murder.
I consider him to be a criminal for what he has done.
It is sick it just makes me feel sorry for this weak weak woman who would chose to live in denial, and believe all his lies, and open up her house to this psychopath.
Now that is scary.