Not sure if my ex has NPD,but he has alot of traits.I will give a few examples of his personality.
He's the type that think he knows everything,he's arrogant,selfish,controlling,manipulative,chronic liar,mental emotional and have been physical abusive,he always says he's Perfect/Great,its always the other person who need help/crazy.Thats the bad side of him.
The other side is loving,caring,affectionate,attentitve,charming etc.Now let me start with a few incident that occured while we were dating.He would always say I didnt appreciate or value him,meaning if i didnt rub his feet or give him a massage I was wrong.Now i didnt have a problem with giving him those things but every other day was a bit much,when I was tired.If i wanted to go out with my girlfriends he would text all night or call.If i didnt text or call while i was out,he would ask why and I dont love him like he loves me.Argue over petty small things,like why didnt I tell my friend i was watching tv with him,when she called.
If we went out together and my friends were going to the same place.He wanted me to be under him all night and I could go over towards my friends for awhile,but if he felt like i was giving them to much time..he would say,"u put others before me".His anger and temper was very scary,he would yell and scream.Spit would be flying and sweat would be dripping,over something petty.If I didnt say thank you when he expected me to say it,i should be apologizn to him and im wrong.If a guy friend calls me,he is asking why he's calling.If i stay on the phone longer than he thinks i should,when I off he would be upset.He's a serial cheater and liar,when I take him back he always would say its because I didnt appreciate or value him.
The women would call and tell me the same things about his behavior.Saying he's crazy and need help.He move in with women tell them he loves them and come running back to me.Like a fool I think he will change and except him back.
He's very irresponsible with insecure issues,but Im the one whos insecure and dont know how to love a GREAT man.I know you guys are saying why do I still love someone who dont love you right?!I guess its the other side that is nice to me that I still long for.Dont know if I'll ever see him again or talk with him.He has sent text msgs but I dont read them I just hit ignore or delete.I miss him this is true,but I know he's not the one for me.
How do I just get him out of my system?