I'm new to the message board/vain forum, but not new to reading all of your stories on "All about him." I've found it so helpful, enlightening and inspiring to read everyone's experiences with their own narcissists and how everyone is taking it day by day, surviving however they can.
It's been a year and a half since I cut my own narcissist loose and I can tell you that even though I still think of him just about every day (much to my major aggravation), I can tell you that there is life beyond the narcissist and the damage that they wreck.
I sometimes wonder when the day will come that I don't think of him. I've had NC with him since late last year. It was difficult but it was SOOOO worth it. My life is SOOO good right now! I am in a completely different place than I was when I was in contact with my N -- a place I never thought I would be. I think I'm living proof that if you can stick with the NC rule, your life will be so much better for it!
A few months ago, I got a call from him on my phone. I recognized his number immediately. I said to myself, "You don't have to answer it. All you have to do it take a deep breath and just keep your eye on the future."
I look forward to contributing more to this forum.