I am still trying to find a way out . Almost 10 years of marriage, a lot of heartbreak and disappointment. I can't even count the number of times I have been lied to, ignored, accused, and made to feel like if only I had done more. I have found myself in legal trouble for his actions that I did not condone or agree with. The last eye opener for me has been him telling me that I act like I am not at all concerned with his life or feelings during the week I had spent at the hospital ICU making decisions like dnr orders and organ donation for my brother who was on life support and had a massive stroke. He died and I was the next of kin. I had to plan his funereal while this self absorbed n was trying to make me feel sorry for not giving him all my time. Needless to say, this was not the first time he was only concerned with himself, but for me, I am planning my escape so it will be the last.