Sporty Spice's story

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#1 Aug 24 - 11AM
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Sporty Spice's story

Hello Everyone !

Just wanted to share my recent story....

I have recently discovered that I have come across yet another Narcissist in my life. I educated myself the last time (many years ago) on NPD and after 6 months of an involvement with this man, I recognized it again. I'm shaking my head.

He would make everything about him !! no doubt about that. Even making his son's week at camp about him ! He frequently threw pity parties for himself in my presence, and he literally turned any conversation back on to himself. When I began noticing that, that's when the lightbulb went off for me.

He did something very stupid (go figure I get the stupid one), and I caught him on the internet attempting to make contact with another female. When questioned, he said it was meaningless... lol... but I knew his next steps oh so well (and I was right)... however, he sent me a semi-pornographic text message that was meant for her, only a few days after lying to me about him wanting to date anyone or meet anyone else ! Of course, this was somehow my fault. I stopped all communication after receiving that text.

A week and half later, he decides to contact me and he was just full of remorse (stupid me listened). Said he had to run but really wanted to continue the conversation later on. I agreed ! : (... then the 2nd conversation was just a quick call to say he was tired and had a sore back...he didn't want to talk. So I began asking some questions (to see how he would react) and he didn't fail me. He began getting defensive and agitated with me, then accusing me of being negative (deflection)...he even went to the extent of throwing himself yet another pity party !!! I wasn't buying it this time, and hung up on him.

Next day, I texted him and said 'Pls never contact me ever again', and replied with 'no problem'.

Is it over ? I hope so, but feel in months to come when his new source is no longer around...he will be contacting me again.

Aug 24 - 2PM
Barbara (not verified)
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Sporty Spice

it's over if YOU want it to be. YOU must institute STRICT and ABSOLUTE no contact. (he won't) Click on MESSAGE BOARD on the left and read thru all the pages - there's LOADS there for you Click on MY BLOG on the left - Lisa & I put tons of articles there to help you understand & detach. Hope you're in therapy and reading Lisa's book! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck