I too wish I had found this site sooner.
I am almost divorced from husband #2, married ten years. He wanted the divorce. It is only in the last few weeks that I finally realized who he is and that there was nothing I could have done to change the outcome. What I can't believe is why he stayed with me for a total of 16 years!
My story is long, and eventually I will share it. I am in therapy and it is very helpful, but the pain of this divorce is excruciating.
I am meant to be in a relationship, but I am crushed, burned out, drained and depleted. I am so emotionally bruised that I recoil if a man shows interest in me.
The interesting fact is my soon-to-be-ex wants us to stay friends and he wants to see me when he comes to my city (he still lives in our marital home which is 500 miles away); what a surprise...
Does anybody have ideas about the healing process and how long it will take.
Thank you for the opportunity to share my feelings