Mar1e101's Story

Everything was getting real crazy, my son in law was threatening so many things in private to me, in the end he said that "I do not accept him! He was going to tell his mother, and that once she heard that I do not accept him, she will keep me from ever talking to my daughter and if anything ever happens to my daughter his Mother will make sure that I never see my Grandson ever again! He was using the baby to control all of us. Recently, we had to take a short trip for three days. My son and friend witnessed him pretending to cry to his own mother, set up a Hate session against me, with my friend, my sons and daughter. All this happened, while I was away for every waking hour my son and friend had to listen to hate talks and it is all about him talks. All of my children were being forced to choose between there Mom(me) or him. It all gets real freaky. My closest friend was a target of hate sessions as well, after the fact, my daughter brought my friend out in saying that she was the one doing the bashing against me, my son in law turned it on her, even though she was watching the baby, and he was clearly incapable. My daughter does not even know what he (so0n-in-law, what they heard and witnessed in regards to the baby. Today,so far his mother did send me a letter, stating that she did not want any further communication with me, she was pained that I did not accept her son. I wrote back stating that he could not live with us anymore, because of his actions and behavior with drugs and alcohol. I did not know any of these other things till after they we gone, I was shocked and most of my concern goes to my girl and my grandson. Some of this stuff is so unbelievable....I get into so much sorrow and grief...I cannot talk to my daughter at all...I am blocked off from them and I do not really know where they are...His plan was to leave her, this know. He was all packed up, on the other hand she was blaming me for everything and to sum it all up she does not even know, all she does know is to come to his defense, she does not know, that his ultimate goal is to take her son from her and give the baby to his mother. He revealed to my friend that his "gift", was to know how to push buttons and study people, he liked that he could do that, he loved to see the reaction I had or anyone else. He liked that he had everyone figured out, even my daughter who he claimed "that we were both alike", In a way, we are, she was vulnerable when he met her, I was vulnerable from a loss, I guess we were easy prey. All he likes about their marriage is the illusion of the relationship; the idea of acceptance and reactions he gets from other people, being married and having a son, but he does not like the responsibility of caring for his own child. In fact he threatened to harm him (the baby) and that caused my argument with my daughter which lead up to me calling it quits..that what my friend witnessed...which is the reason why she stayed to babysit. Knowing too well that he was not capable. In fact, he turned his words in to hers,everything she had to listen too. He even said, that my daughter was not a good mother for leaving his own son in his care....which he did "fake cry" that to his mother. The whole family on his side hate me and those who defended me. Which means most of us have no communication at all. In truth, time is my only hope. I hope that I made it clear that my girl could come home, the door is opened to her. But I really do fear that she will come, without her son, I fear for her so deeply, I hope she will come out of this, as a mother and proud person and I hope she can feel, my love for her. Wow, this has me in tears now, but that is more of my story.