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If you haven't yet seen Vicky/Barecelona movie you should for a perfect vision of the narcissist. Trust me. You'll enjoy this and/or vomit. CM
yes I watched this some months back and thought the same thing!
The ex-Psych professor identified with Leo Tolstoy, like some people who live their lives through celebrities, soap operas, or D&D (as in Dungeons&Dragons). Leo was 34 and Sofia was 18 when they married. The ex-P compared himself and I to Leo and Sofia, since he was 32 and I was 18 when we met.
"The Last Station" has Christopher Plummer as Leo Tolstoy and Helen Mirren as Sofia. The movie tends to depict Sofia as crazy... when in fact it was Leo who engaged in the crazy-making, from the first day. Within the first month of their marriage, Sofia was already threatening suicide. She spent her honeymoon weeping. Leo had famously said of one of Sofia's sisters "She will be beautifully unhappy when she marries me"--it ended up coming true with Sofia. Whenever Sofia was pregnant (she bore at least 13 children), Leo would abandon her. When she was in pain from trying to breastfeed,Leo threatened to kill her&flew into a murderous rage because he couldn't stand her suffering.
"The Last Station" puts Leo in a hagiographic light;the Tolstoys are depicted as a feuding old married couple, with the same troubles as any married couple. But it was Leo who had NPD.
Has anyone seen this? Two business men deliberately decide to seek a woman who is both vulnerable and really nice. They target a deaf lady who works at the company and then proceed to exploit her romantically. It's really sad in places and it made me cry at just how vile they are to her while pretending to love her. Interestingly one of the men then starts to genuinly fall for her and then things start to change. It is a really good film - I almost think every vulnerable caring woman should see this to gain more awareness about how vile some men can be.
I had a hard time sitting through that movie. Those guys were so evil. I remember that it left a lasting impression on me.
Doesn't it end with the woman turning the tables on them?
I think the ex-Psych professor liked this film, he also liked David Mamet's "Spanish Prisoner" (about con men)
My ex-N loved Up in the Air. He thought it was a very funny and inspiring movie (his great interest was collecting air-miles, just like George Clooney´s character), I thought it was tragic.
Just finished watching The Other Boleyn Girl...about Anne Boleyn and King Henry VIII...wow. talk about a movie about narcissism. It was really good.
Have you seen the series on show time... The Tudors!!
Must must watch it from season 1
I watch series1-3 with xN. He strongly identified himself with Henry. Having had tons of women, D&Dd when he wanted. He cried when Henry made piece with his bastard daughter, for xN had a illegitimate child himself. He hopes they will start to see each other when she's older. He tends to forget that poor little Mary killed thousands of innocent people in honor of her mother. He claimed that he looks like Rhys-Meyers, which, in fact is kinda true. But R-M gives me the creeps anyway :-)
Historically not correct, of course; Henry VII was ugly and fat, especially later in his life. But written by someone who knows about narcissism.
He always compared me with Anne Boleyn. I look a little bit like the actress who plays her in the series. He was as dominant in bed as the Tudor king.
It is running on Belgian television at this time. I even avoid seeing the trailers.
Wow! I watched this movie a few weeks ago... immediately *before* I found out that I was in the hands of a narcissist but I know it was after I was on Guam. It was mesmerizing *and* I hadn't even yet begun to think about narcissism...I loved the movie though because of the strong portrayals of characters.
BTW...the movie was NOT historically accurate, by any definition!! But it was narcissistically accurate, lol. So it was total fiction, in terms of what really happened, but a great story.
Oh, good to know! I've been meaning to watch that movie. Who's the narcissist, the guy or one of the two women? Hollywood is full of movies about narcissists. Did you see American Psycho with Christian Bale? Now this is obviously a narcissist who went off the deep end and is clearly a sociopath, but quite an interesting depiction of how narcissists think.
Now available on pay per view or on demand. I think the guy was the creep, though I could have been so invested in That point of view that I missed some sublties....I'm looking forward to seeing the others recommended here. Thanks everyone! CM
What about the movie Talented Mr. Rippley? What do you think about this one?
Ah yes! Talented Mr. Ripley - Matt Damon's character was definitely a narcissist! Good call!
I think he's not a N, he's a psychopath. Ns rarely commit crimes, psychopaths do that often.
Hell Matt Damon's character was a FULL BLOWN PSYCHOPATH
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I agree, the Matt Damon character was already at the psycopath side of the spectrum, he was killing people with absolutely no remorse.
and "absorbing" or "taking on" their personna.
Ns and Ps do this a lot - it's called PROJECTIVE IDENTIFICATION.
I have an example. I found out, when Psycho-boy was working on one of my friends to get her to sleep with him, he told her things about his personal history - things that happened to ME not HIM.
I was stunned. This guy took pieces of my personal history and USED THEM AS HIS OWN (slight changes to fit HIM) to make himself more attractive, interesting, etc. I also found it was the very things I had done that he was JEALOUS of!!
He of course vehemently denied doing this. It was like someone sucked my soul out.
Matt Damon just took what he wanted & was covetous of in that movie - even someone's life & personna.
I liked that movie. I think my N is like the Jude Law character actually. I hope I never meet anyone like the Matt Damon character!!!
I think the Matt Damon character was a psychopath.
This was just on the other night...the period piece with John Malkovich and Glenn Close both playing narcissists that chose victims to ruin...and Michelle Pfeiffer was the woman they destroyed. It's a great movie. Rewatching it made me cry though. They picked her precisely because she was a nice and virtuous person that they wanted to corrupt for the fun of it. (Not that I am so "virtuous" but in comparison to the N, I am...I think he must have loved it that I was a self-confessed Christian that he manipulated into betraying all that)
As a former actor, that is one of my top 3 movies of all time. Close and Malkovich were masterful!
Close's character was a full blown, female psychopath. No question in my mind. Some web searches on female psychopaths will confirm my opinion.
Malkovich's character was a Narcissist. I won't go so far as to call him a Psychopath because he has a moment of empathy at the end for what he'd done. He purposely blows that duel to get himself killed because he's flooded with remorse for what he's done and been doing for years. When he realizes how Close's character played him - he realizes she's even sicker than him and feels that he is too sick to live with himself and his actions.
Too bad only a minute number of Ns ever have a moment of clarity. I know Psycho-Boy had one with me once... and I found out an hour later he went to his favorite brothel and forgot all about it. Which is much more typical of an N or Ps behavior.
Ah yes! My ex loved this movie!
At least they got it in the end!! I was thinking about that movie recently...remembering the line where Malkovich says about how he's getting her to trust him..."her eyes are beginning to close" or something like that. Shiver. And I was thinking about how sad it was that she died from it. And then I thought...Well, goddammit, I'M NOT gonna die!!! lol So I will recover from my heartache out of SPITE if that's what it takes. ;)
The term “Gaslighting” comes from the 1944 Hollywood classic movie called Gaslight. Gaslighting is an extreme form of emotional abuse used by the narcissistic gaslighter to manipulate the innocent victim (gaslightee). During the process of gaslighting, the victim will find themselves going through emotional and psychological states of mind.
This movie, although old, demonstrates the insidious behaviour of a narcissist very well. If you suspect that you have been abused by a narcissist, then for sure you will have experienced psychological abuse. It will be important (as a part of your recovery) to understand how you were "gaslighted", because you will have been.
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