Originally posted on Sept 5, 2007, 9:54pm
On the thread topic "Being Married to a Narcissist," a few of us got on the topic of narcissists and sex/intimacy. I'm copying what I posted to this discussion thread a couple days ago and am interested in hearing what others who have been involved with narcissists found.
Narcissists love pornography. They are warped sexually. Not because they like porn, but because they are addicted to porn and prefer to watch porn rather than be intimate with their significant other. My ex would rather watch porn than sleep with me any day of the week. It makes sense if you think about it.
Of course they prefer to masturbate by themselves to pornography rather than be intimate with another person. They get turned on by their own image! I talk about this more in my book in the sub-chapter titled, "He avoids intimacy and sex." They have what's known as a Madonna-whore complex, which ultimately explains it all. They are only turned on by whore's (porn stars or strippers) and view any other type of woman as a Madonna, completely sexless.
If they are a cerebral or intellectual narcissist, they avoid sex and regard it as a maintenance chore required to sustain their narcissistic supply - a.k.a. their significant other.
If they are a somatic or sexual narcissist, sex with several different women is a means to get narcissistic supply, but nothing more. Narcissistic Supply = Attention/Affirmation