Didn't break contact this time

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#1 Apr 21 - 3PM
tiredofthisaddiction
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Didn't break contact this time

and I feel AWESOME!

Please read what happened to me 3 weeks ago using this link:

http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2015/04/01/broke-nc-and-paid-dearly

Since then, I've been reading a lot (here and elsewhere), posting here, involved in extensive discussions with my brother about Family of Origin issues, and seeing a counselor. I'm doing well and staying strong.

This morning, I got a "hoover" text from the N using yet another number that of course, I hadn't blocked (I have now). The text said that she was back in her town briefly, that she has a gift for me, loves me and wants to see me. I laughed hard at this bullshit, considering what she did 3 weeks ago as outlined in the above link.

I never cease to me amazed how evil, abusive, lying and how manipulative this N is. Aren't they all!

No "I'm sorry" (I would not have believed it), and just "picking up" where she left off 3 weeks ago, as if that day never happened.

This time, I didn't respond at all, immediately deleted the texts and when I got home, blocked this new number.

Some observations:

N.s, or at least this one, are/is as evil as they come. They will stop at nothing to get supply and hurt/abuse people. This is the second phone number this bitch has acquired to hoover me.

They will never say they are sorry. If they do, it's a lie!

As Goldie said in her post this morning, texts are meaningless. The bitch can't even call, just uses a text to reel me back in. I have long blocked her FB page and her phone number, thus someone else's phone to avoid the block.

They lie, lie, lie, lie, lie. Had I responded, I know she would have not replied at all, would have delayed the response for hours, or would have played me again to get me to drive to her town for the gift, only to be a no show.

Until the final discard, the "Hoover" will come, as surely as the sun will rise tomorrow. 3 weeks ago I had a plan but didn't stick to it. This time, I did and I stuck to it.

Contact = pain/supply.

Their egos are huge and they will stop at nothing to feed them. This N. thinks she can totally crap all over me 3 weeks ago and then just do it again. In retrospect, all my past behaviors conditioned her to know she could do it over and over again. Time to uncondition her!

Damn I feel good about not responding to this latest "hoover", especially in light of 3 weeks ago.

Because I'm still angry and haven't forgiven, I hope that my failure to respond made her uncomfortable, not in control, without much needed punishment/abuse supply and ruined her moment! Yahoo!

Apr 24 - 11PM
Deidre99
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No contact. You gave YOURSELF

Apr 23 - 12PM
talktothehand
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The final discard

Apr 24 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
tiredofthisaddiction
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Hand, perhaps I didn't make

Apr 24 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
Goldie
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I believe you made yourself clear

Apr 25 - 8AM (Reply to #5)
tiredofthisaddiction
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Goldie, while I have not posted about my SA,

Apr 22 - 12PM
Lookforward
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Double Yahoo!! Sock it to her