I've been reading about Narcissism and alot of debate seems to be given to the fact of whether or not a Narcissist or someone with NPD truly knows what they are doing. I want to say h_ll yes they know! But is this really true?

Case in point. I have been the major breadwinner for all the time (5 years) the Narc has been in my life. I found out that he has been sneaking money out of the account, and won't tell me where it's going. Today I was asking him a question about something (that I thought was trivial--my mistake) and he blows up and starts raging about something completely different! He actually had the nerve to say that I was UNGRATEFUL for the money he was bringing into the household and he deserved an apology!! I calmly said that my question didn't pertain to what he was upset about and quickly changed the subject (since he can rage for HOURS).

After he hung up I sat and thought about it. HOW DARE HE CALL ME UNGRATEFUL! I have been the major breadwinner for 5 years. I never once got a thank you or any gratitude for doing it. All I ever got was "no one told you you had to do that." And yet I AM THE ONE who is ungrateful! yeah right!! He is sneaking money out of the account and it's going to God knows where and HE IS THE ONE who deserves an apology. WHEN H_LL FREEZES OVER!

So I say (at least in this case) he knew EXACTLY what he was doing. Trying to put me once again in the wrong as always and make himself feel/look good.

Your opinion on this? thanks