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#1 Feb 17 - 4PM
gssbl68
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New and asking for feedback

Hi Everyone - I'm new hear and just need some help getting my mind around my situation. I've been with a man who I think is a narcissist for 3 years. He has a great public persona and is very charming and an artist. He has two very young kids and we moved in together about a year into the relationship. I paid for all the dates and loaned him 3k, which he promised to pay back in month but didn't for two years and threw his first verbally abusive tantrum the night I asked for the money back. Over the 3 years he has called me every bad name there is, both in public and private, has told my I'm insane and stupid, then said he never said those things. When I would cry because of his words he would tell me I was crying as a 'game'. He hasn't hit me but threatened to punch me in the face in August when I moved out after he canceled our wedding the week of. I felt used financially and as a nanny for his kids, abused verbally and scared. Since August I have lived in my own apartment. He has restructured the past to minimize and gaslight and it makes me feel so insane, hurt and enraged - to me it's bad enough doing those abusive things - and so much worse denying to me that they ever happened. He has been on the 'hoovering' thing since, and on his best behavior - on inauguration day (ironically, as Trump has so much of the same jargon that it disturbs me) he came over to my apartment in a rage, shaking and escalating. I was so scared that I locked myself in my bathroom until he left - with the shower running to drown out any verbal abuse he might dole out. I broke it off the next day when he denied having any anger issues. That level of denial just upset me too much.
I've been weak and slept with him twice since. He is actually going to anger management and therapy - so I don't know what to think. He has called himself 'a God', told me he is the best looking man in the world, which almost sounds more like bipolar to me. Anyway, I'm reaching out for support - what do you all think of this situation?
Thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to read this and get back to me.

Feb 19 - 3PM
JoyceT
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New and just need some comfort

Feb 21 - 6PM (Reply to #4)
Goldie
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Hi Joyce

Feb 18 - 10AM
Goldie
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Feedback on the Narcissist

Feb 20 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
gssbl68
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Thank you for your feedback;