just got hoovered!

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#1 Mar 19 - 1AM
Sallygirl
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just got hoovered!

I am 2 years out from discard, and progressing on my path forward. I was one of those on this forum who said..."I will never get hoovered"....but lo and behold 2 years of no contact, I got an email last night from the narc - 9:30pm on a Friday night. I could see the first line of the email "Hi I wanted to write and see how your parents are doing, p". I saw it last night and did not open it to see the whole message and attachment (no doubt a picture of his boat). I re-read "The Path Forward" book section on No Contact and read...."delete email without reading". I had not blocked his email previously because I thought "I will never get hoovered". So after a lot of soul searching and re-reading and thinking about myself and valuing myself.....just now, I deleted the message without opening it and I blocked all future messages from him. Yay! I did it. I feel so strong now. I thought, why do I care about what he says, why do I want to let him in my life again. Nothing he would say will make up for the pain he caused - nothing he would say would satisfy me. He was just testing the waters so to speak to see if I could supply him. NO !!!! not from me.

Just as a side note: I am still working on the path forward ...a work in progress. I am having my own "cleansing ceremony" with a friend coming over on April 1....ha ha ha April fools day so ironic. I am going to burn cards from him (don't ask why I still had them tucked away), cut in half a beautiful leather jacket he gave me, crush with a hammer 2 pr of gold earrings he gave me, and throw in the garbage some other stuff and give to goodwill 5 nice Coach handbags he had given me. It was amazing the pile of stuff I collected from my home that had some attachment to him. Wow - I need to cleanse.

Keep on keepin on! everyone. .....and "never say never"!!

Apr 16 - 12AM
MyrtleBeach
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Hoovered

I'm Done

Mar 26 - 3AM
Goldie
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Well shiver me timbers