He changed all his numbers, silent treatment

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#1 Jun 26 - 3PM
Moonwave
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He changed all his numbers, silent treatment

So my ex and I were going to stay friends, until he started playing mind games again. Sending vague texts and being unwilling to answer any direct questions, ignoring texts for hours/days. I finally sent him a barrage of angry texts one afternoon, explaining that I wouldn't put up with this direspect anymore. So he sent me a text and told me "I needed to give up the idea of ever being friends." Although before this he always told me it would "kill him" if we didn't stay in contact and we would "always" be friends.

So I partly moved to a new city for him, and three months after all of this, I decided to return home for three months to finish a book I have to get to my agent in September. Last weekend, I send him one text saying I'd like to say a friendly goodbye, because I'm not sure I'm going to be back. I also send him two other nice texts over a period of a week, and last night I try his numbers (he's always had several that frequently changed) in an attempt to talk to him and try to apologize/have pleasant conversation/see him. Found out they were all "no longer working numbers" and he's changed his numbers without telling me.

I'm so angry because every time I tried to go no contact he told me I was cruel and sick. When I did it, it lasted a month, max. Now he has decided to make it a lifetime decision. This guy did so many abusive things to me and now he's making me feel like the abuser for sending some texts standing up for myself. Ugh! The things I forgave him for were unbelievable. How do they make you feel like the shamed/wrong one? Can't stand it.

Sep 30 - 9PM
tiredofthisaddiction
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This is why NC

Sep 24 - 12PM
Alisa
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You can't be friends with a narc

Jul 1 - 9AM
Hunter
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Re read this??

Jun 27 - 4PM
talktothehand
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Moonwave