Old Timer Back

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#1 Aug 2 - 10AM
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Old Timer Back

I was here years ago, and I still come on here but I do not log in. I am back today needing some assistance/answers. I have been away from my ex for almost 2 years. Within the last few months he has contacted me at my job via email. He was not love bombing or anything mainly he wanted to see how I was doing. I took the bait and started calling and texting him. I asked him if he was seeing anyone, and he never directly answered. He never talked about us seeing each other or us getting back together. I started to have strong feelings for him again every waking moment. I was with him for about 16 years off and on. I don't understand why he was afraid to see me. I asked him to meet for lunch and he said no. He would call one day and we would laugh and have a good conversation, and I would text or call the next day and I would not hear from him again until 2 weeks later. I asked him again was he dating someone and he said that was none of my business. I texted a nice picture I had taken for work and he said my face looked like it was balled up. Since he has started contacting me he will not give me any compliments about anything. If I bring up things we did in the past he pretends he does not remember. My question is maybe he has changed for the person he is with because he is not trying to see or date me. If he has changed why contact me? If he is so in love with the woman he is with why come back in my life to rip my healing wounds again. Last night he called and he said I don't want to see you, he said if I did don't you think I would have made an effort. He said you are the one calling me. I was calling him because he emailed me and he said to call him sometimes. I thought I had grown so much after we split, but I am hurt again. He told me last night I needed help. One of my dear friends said maybe he is truly in love with his new woman and has changed and he only wants to be a phone friend. Any answers advice would be appreciated. I thought I had healed enough that I could handle talking to him again.

Aug 20 - 3PM
Journey
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A narc does not change. A

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Aug 6 - 9AM
omgalso
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He set you up

Aug 4 - 10PM
Deidre99
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When you fall in love with

Aug 2 - 6PM
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Thanks Goldie

Aug 2 - 4PM
Goldie
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