Obsessive thoughts on new guy

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#1 May 4 - 9PM
Amazed
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Obsessive thoughts on new guy

I was involved with a Psychopath N for about 3 1/2 years before he was exposed...

We had a clean break...NC successful for almost 6 years now...and finally felt healed and recovered after a good 2-4 years after working hard to comprehend all that was involved...

Any way...it is now 6 years later, and I haven't been out or dated much.

Guess you could say I put myself under a rock..and really carried the NC concept into much of my life

The PsychopathN encounter really forced me in strong NC and carried this over into much of my dating life..
unfortunately...

Well I have made a resolution to go out more..and well,, met a guy at a club who approached me, we got to
talking, dancing, exchange of numbers...and I have known him for about a month and a half now...and I am super attracted to him....

He txted me the following day after we met, and said we had a great time...then the txting goes to about only once a week...he asks me out,,,(about once a week) and I on 'deprivation mode' ask him out the following week,,,and approach him....

We do not txt daily...and I find that it is me as the female who is making some of the 'come ons' so far....they say 'you should wait'.....and not take it too fast (this guy is ALL about taking it slow....)

Being extremely attracted to him...and not having really dated anyone in about 5 years...I am all over this guy like diving into a water hole in the sierra desert.....if you get my drift....

I find that I have extremely 'attracted' thoughts about him...and cannot really stop thinking about him...

I am constantly repeating 'he is soo cute' over and over again in my mind....and cannot wait to get back
together....

I kinda feel this is normal...especially if you just meet someone for the first time....and feel maybe it is a good sign...or maybe not...

It is kinda fun to feel head over heels for someone....yet I feel my thoughts are kinda blown out...or excessive....like I feel I REALLY want to get together with this guy...yaadaa yaadaa... you know,,..

We are either compatible...or not...however my question for you all....is have you experienced this 'elation' feeling or maybe 'syndrome' after a psychopath N relationship...were the psychopath N had you over aroused...brainwashed..manipulated....gaslighted....you know what I am speaking about hopefully!

What I am wondering is this kinda an aftershock or common experience from woman after being in a manipulative psychopath N relationship...or are 'super attracted' feelings normal...when and if you begin to date again...

Also...is it proper for a woman to wait for the guy...and is 'being in touch' only once a week normal....I kinda feel like if you really like someone....out of the gate...it is okay to be in touch a little more frequently...my guy friends seem to feel otherwise...that you have to 'slow your roll'....any similar experiences from you all...or insight about healthy dating again?

Thank you...love you all :)

amazed..

May 5 - 11AM
spinning
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Amazed, I am glad

spinning

May 5 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
ItsFinallytime
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I agree with much of this -

May 6 - 4PM (Reply to #8)
Amazed
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itsfinallytime, right on....

May 6 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
spinning
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I hear you itsfinally, especially

spinning

May 5 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
Amazed
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Not Spinning----thank you.

May 6 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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Dating support groups

May 11 - 4AM (Reply to #4)
StrongasDandelion
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"Dating is about YOU deciding

May 11 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
Goldie
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Thank you for responding