Do they ever change?

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#1 Mar 19 - 5AM
HadEnough80
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Do they ever change?

Before divorcing my ExNH he came back to me saying how sorry he was and what a fool he was to mistreat me. He begged me just for another chance to make it up to me as he said. I stuck to my decision, but have moment of weakness that I wonder if he had really changed.

He has been calmer ever since and actually sounded genuinely sincere and sorry. Immediately after the divorce he sent me messages and emails admitting that our marriage is over because of him, and that I did nothing wrong, and asked me to never change, because I am just perfect! I maintained NC and didn't reply either.

Today he sends me text being super sweet and just wanting to check on me that I am well, and wished me the best because I am very valuable as he says.

This is very painful to deal with, I sometimes wonder if he had really changed and learnt his lesson! And if he has changed to become betetr, and someone else will benefit from his improved self. I am surprised that he is admitting and taking responsibilty for his actions. Is this typical Narc behaviour???

Mar 19 - 9AM
Deidre40
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This may seem strange. But, a

Mar 19 - 9AM
knighty2035
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No!

Mar 19 - 8AM
onwithmylife
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they

Mar 19 - 7AM
Hunter
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If they changed would we all

Mar 19 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
lmac70
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exactly.

Mar 19 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
Layla
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Hahaha! Best answer EVER!

Mar 19 - 6AM
midnight7
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No, they never, ever change.

Mar 19 - 6AM
MMcCann
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Duplicate post

Mar 19 - 6AM
Emma
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No

Mar 19 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
KayJayGee
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Absolutely True...