I had experience and knowlege with PD's before I met the XN/P and I too STILL got sucked in. I was talking with a friend last night and I recall the first time I spoke with him, saying, this is the most far fetched story I have ever heard when he was giving me his history.

I was red flagged by him immediately and once he had a chance to work me, he was perfect. He took care of everything and frankly at that time in my life, I needed the help. I had been a single parent for years and run business's and was exhausted. I needed a break, lol. So I escaped into the world of N/P for several months. My life was nearly destroyed in that short time, he worked fast. I ran into one of the police officers who was familar with the case and he said: yes he was looking for one thing, Franklin, Grant, and Hamilton. Money.

He must have thought he had died and gone to heaven, he had NO intention of letting go of me, I was great supply. He rarely did anything for me after that brief honeymoon stage, why would he? I was a strong woman and accustomed to doing for myself and he took full advantage of the situation.

He got out of jail and came back looking for more of this great supply and I was different. Not even close to being the same. He did not find in me what had been there before. I was not willing to do much of anything for him anymore and he left. Moved out of Dodge and was finally willing to leave me alone.

I have never encountered such a selfish, evil, self serving freak in my life and I've known a few doozies. This guy's sense of entitlement went beyond what I was able to comprehend. He came back I believe now, to go in for the kill, only this time Goldie was prepared, I had my armour on and his was not able to penetrate me a second time.

So, this has NOTHING to do with intelligence.

God bless,
Goldie

They lie, steal, and cheat like everyone else takes a breath. They don't care about the legal system, morality, or your feelings. They are not ALL exactly the same. Some of them have a "type" of fear which may not resemble the same type of intense fear which others may expereince. They fear getting caught, being dethroned from their power positions, and losing their status with those who still buy into their phony acts. The fear turns almost instantly into rage, yet for some there is a brief fear and they may try to hurt you if they feel you are trying to take them down. There are varying degree's of psychopathy with varying degree's of fear regarding going to jail or losing what they consider their's. Some of them actually like jail. Charles Manson did not want to be let out of jail before he was involved in murder. He begged them to let him stay.

Are they all like that no, yet they have a tendency to lurk in the dark side of life and jail is just another adventure for many of them. I cannot stress enough that this is NOT cookie cutter. Psychology never was and never will be an exact science. Many come on here and find one trait which their N or N/P does not have or has and often say, oh he does not do this one thing or he does do this, so he must not be a N or a N/P. It is not that simple. Some of combinations of various disorders and some are also addicts, and have other issue's as well.

A full assessment to determine their characteristics is a lengthy process and often many would not agree to this, so we go with what we know with the research which has been done up until this point.

God bless,
Goldie

They lie, steal, and cheat like everyone else takes a breath. They don't care about the legal system, morality, or your feelings. They are not ALL exactly the same. Some of them have a "type" of fear which may not resemble the same type of intense fear which others may expereince. They fear getting caught, being dethroned from their power positions, and losing their status with those who still buy into their phony acts. The fear turns almost instantly into rage, yet for some there is a brief fear and they may try to hurt you if they feel you are trying to take them down. There are varying degree's of psychopathy with varying degree's of fear regarding going to jail or losing what they consider their's. Some of them actually like jail. Charles Manson did not want to be let out of jail before he was involved in murder. He begged them to let him stay.

Are they all like that no, yet they have a tendency to lurk in the dark side of life and jail is just another adventure for many of them. I cannot stress enough that this is NOT cookie cutter. Psychology never was and never will be an exact science. Many come on here and find one trait which their N or N/P does not have or has and often say, oh he does not do this one thing or he does do this, so he must not be a N or a N/P. It is not that simple. Some of combinations of various disorders and some are also addicts, and have other issue's as well.

A full assessment to determine their charactoristics is a lengthy process and often many would not agree to this, so we go with what we know with the research which has been done up until this point.

God bless,
Goldie