I wish i could take credit for this but Sparrow gets a Gold Star for this..
It comes up often so Now we dont need to search for it..
Thank You Sparrow !!
I felt a need to post this today............with all of the past, present posts regarding the topic of the OW.
Most seem to have an obsession with this woman. This onbession is getting in the way of your healing more so then the issue at hand. I just want to put this out there for you to read, think about, and if you have to, read again and again and again..........
THE OW IS NOT, I REPEAT IS NOT MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR NARCS LIFE. SHE IS NO DIFFERENT THEN WE ARE/WERE.......SHE IS NOT BEING TREATED DIFFERENTLY, SHE IS NOT FEELING DIFFERENTLY. THESE ARE ILLUSIONS THAT YOU ARE CREATING IN YOUR OWN HEADS AND IT IS INTEREFERING BIG TIME WITH YOUR HEALING.
This woman will find herself discarded as you/we did. She is riding the high, as we did, depending on what stage of the relationship they are in. Trust me when I tell you, she will be EXACTLY where we were/are and make no mistake about it..........she will be a lost, heart broken victim of this narcissist as we were/are.
PLEASE, PLEASE GET THIS WOMAN OUT OF YOUR HEAD........IT IS DOING YOU NO GOOD........SHE IS IRRELEVANT. A VICTIM AS WE WERE. THE PROBLEM AT HAND IS THE NARC, WHAT HE HAS DONE TO YOU AND HOW YOU ARE GOING TO HEAL FROM THIS VISCIOUS RAPE OF YOUR SOUL.
She, the OW is one of us, and we should never loss sight of this. Stop allowing her to be an obstacle!