Barbara and Lisa..and others who commented.

Thanks for your kind words. I have a lawyer now, unfortunately it is his legal right to be here as he owns half of the home!!! So stressful and confusing for the kids and me. I think the novelty will wear off, but in the meantime this "playing perfect dad" is getting very tiring and a bit creepy to be honest. So great to know you are all here (sad as that is that there are so many of us).

So my NH of 22+ years, moved out "temporarily" a few weeks ago, first of his doing and then I solidified that by requesting a few weeks of peace with a lawyer. Now he has decided to move back in! The kids are confused, one outright angry.....it is soooooo bizzare. I can't listen to this post as keeps hovering around. Any advice? I have requested a formal separation with the goal of ending the marriage (as has he many times while in a rage....then the apologies start....)

LOVED IT!!!
Good job Elena!
I really identified with Leslie when she said she got to a place where she felt she didn't exist.

I don't remember if I commented but I really enjoyed your show on divorcing the narc. you said "can you believe he had the affair and wanted me to leave?"

My N had the affair, changed the code on the garage door, put the 3 things i was allowed to take in the garage for the cat to leave me presents on and then has the nerve the other day to tell me i'm being irresponsible because im not helping out with the mortgage! This is after the judge ordered him to pay the mortgage and all debt associated with the house!

Missed ya Lisa! Congrats on the book at Borders! Next pay i'm buying 3 copies for 3 of my friends!

Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet; for everyone is fighting some kind of battle - anonymous- :o)
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